My husband left after a brief emotional affair about three months ago. We have been married 17 years and have three children (9,6 and 1). Before he left things had been strained as his job seemed to be taking up all his time and we had hardly any time together but his leaving still came as a shock as he has always said how much he loves me, always will, would never leave etc. I was and still am devastated as I love the bones of this man and thought we would always be together.
I begged him to come back which resulted in both of us becoming very upset but the upshot being that he doesn't love me in that way anymore and too much has happened to go back. He barely contacts me when he's not here and I know he's on dating websites etc but when we do speak he is friendly, helpful, accommodating etc and just the other day brought me painkillers and a drink when I was ill and kept checking up on me.
I know he's been really down and has arranged counselling for himself and gone on to anti depressants but I think that is out of guilt for the upset he has caused me and everyone else.
Basically, what I'm asking is do I give it more time to see if he comes to realise that he does still love me, is there anything I could do to help the situation? Also I have been talking to someone online but I'm wondering if I should leave that as I'm not over h or would a new guy on the scene help me move on?
Anyone got any experiences of their own that are similar???
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wantingahappyending · 18/09/2016 17:54
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