I am 2 weeks on from finding out H cheated on me. She is 25, he is 45. There has clearly been an EA between them long before things got physical and now they are dating.
Since finding out I have been devastated. I saw it coming but didn't at the same time if that makes sense.
The situation is that we own a house together with 2 dogs and 3 rabbits and have a flat that is rented out. The tenant wants to move out in January when the lease is up. I cannot afford to keep the house on my own, I wouldn't get a mortgage even if we sell the flat so have proposed that I move into the flat. It means getting rid of the rabbits and one of my dogs, a situation I am not happy with but I have to look to my long term security. H wants to sell the flat and for me to stay in the house and says that he will continue to pay towards the mortgage so I can keep all the pets. I cannot cope with them on my own, the dogs are rescues and need a lot of care. He reckons he will come over once a week to help me maintain the house and clean out the rabbits etc.
It seems so ridiculous writing this down, it's not going to happen, of course it isn't. I had a crisis tonight with one of the dogs because she had an operation yesterday and needed his help but he was on "date night" with the girl so I had to cope. This is exactly how it is going to be if I stay here and keep them on.
So, my question is, is it too soon to consider moving on and selling the house to start moving forward? I don't want to rush things but on the other hand with the tenant moving out in January if we don't then we will have to get another tenant and I will be tied in here for another 6 months/a year.
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Is it better to make an early decision to move on after separation or wait and see where things go?
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GinBunny · 17/09/2016 23:09
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