Is there a thing? Or is it a candy shop mentality, an obsession that keeps people there.
Background, I've spent a fair bit of time on two online dating sites and met up with a few people over the months for coffee / lunch. Whilst most have been pleasant enough, there hasn't been mutual chemistry. In fact I didn't realise what mutual chemistry could be like until I met - let's call him Mark.
Now Mark wasn't a natural casanova type, not extrovert and pushy or flirty, just an interesting guy with good manners. I have to say it, didn't immediately strike me as being a traditional candidate for online dating as didn't appear confident enough, but there was something about him that was a mutual attraction. I had a most lovely two hours with him and the nicest date ever with another pencilled in for next week - dependent on my work life.
I wanted to see his profile again last night to see his hobbies and description of himself - we didn't chat too much about this, other things happened. Anyway, I admit I was a bit upset to see he had been continually active on the site for more than two hours. I didn't look at his profile, but logged out.
Attempted to do the same this morning but again he's active on site. so I've logged out. I'm more than happy not to be on that site to meet up with others as I'd like to give this one time to progress. We will probably meet up again this week but seeing him online so soon takes away my confidence that despite a lovely lunch, I'm not quite what he's looking for.
I know I suffer from self-esteem problems and online dating probably isn't the right platform for someone such as me, but I was happy and confident yesterday. Is this what people do, continually hunt out others before giving a new date a chance? It's not really what you do in real life, is it?
So is this the general way of online dating or do I have to contend myself as not being what he's looking for.
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happyinherts · 17/09/2016 13:40
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