I have been with my DP for 5 years. In the last 2 years it's became evident that I am not his number one priority and I am now starting to think that he does not car a jot about how his actions make me feel. However, when I write down examples they seem very trivial:
Going out with friends in a couples situation but telling me he is meeting the lads, then I find out when he has gone that other DP's are there and he 'never thought to ask me'
Refusing to spend Christmas Day with me as he 'goes to his mothers house every year' so for the past 4 Christmases I've sat at home alone
Refusing to discuss anything about getting married (we've been engaged 18 months) because I don't speak to his sister and our wedding plans may upset HER.
I have spoken to him about these and how it makes me feel, he promises he will be more aware of how his actions make me feel.
To add further insult he moved in with me (from his 1 bedroom studio apartment) into my 4 bedroom home, I have not asked him to contribute to the mortgage but to contribute half of the money for bills (which he does pay eventually, sometimes months later).
So yesterday we returned from a weeks holiday in Europe (which I paid for entirely) and he announces he's going out with his mate in a town 5 miles away. I was tired after a long journey home so I went for a nap and when I got up he had gone out.
Guess what?..... It was a couples thing again!!! So I lost my shit, packed his clothes and drove them to his mothers house and texted him to say he was a selfish bellend and not to come back.
Was I OTT?
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Was this OTT?
user1470266148 · 17/09/2016 10:08
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