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new soul mate has cheated with everyone

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oliversmummy21 Fri 16-Sep-16 21:54:07

I've just found out my what id thought soul mate has told me he's cheated on every gf and wife! Am I just delaying the inevitable? I'm so disturbed after getting with him after an affair and I've got a sixteen month old with ex.....mind is fuck ed xxxxx

northbynorthwesty Fri 16-Sep-16 21:58:22

Only time will tell

QueenLizIII Fri 16-Sep-16 21:58:23

One of my ex bfs had cheated on everyone. Then I was next.

He has now been with someone for 18months or so. I feel it is a matter of time.

Past behaviour is the best indicator of future.

SoleBizzz Fri 16-Sep-16 21:59:37

If she/he cheats with you he/she cheats on you.

QueenLizIII Fri 16-Sep-16 22:02:12

Also....why tell you that? So you arent surprised when he does it to you.

Allalonenow Fri 16-Sep-16 22:05:21

When they tell you who and what they are.... believe them!

ALaughAMinute Fri 16-Sep-16 22:06:08

You're delaying the inevitable. He's a cheater. He's not your soul mate. Get rid.

wtffgs Fri 16-Sep-16 22:15:01

He is telling you how he intends for it to be. Listen to him and then show him the door.

That soulmate thing is a load of, bollocks, you know? There are a fair few men out there you could have a decent relationship with. Your current wanker boyfriend is not one of them brew

OiWithThePoodlesAlready Fri 16-Sep-16 22:17:59

Well he doesn't sound like a very nice man, does he?

MephistoMarley Fri 16-Sep-16 22:19:05

Lol yeah of course he's going to cheat on you! He's an alley cat with no morals. Relationships that start as cheating are characterised by doubt and lack of trust as a rule.

hoddtastic Fri 16-Sep-16 22:20:13

i have been in many relationships and been faithful in none of them (including engagements/cohabitations.)

I am ten years into this relationship and haven't - i can't say i never would but leopards can change their spots.

aLeopardanditsSpots Fri 16-Sep-16 22:21:02

Did he cheat with you?
I wouldn't say once a cheat always a cheat for one offs but a patterns tend to repeat themselves.
My ex has cheated on all the women he's been with. He's now with the 22 year old he cheated on me with. Matter of time I reckon.

DavidWainwrightsFeet Fri 16-Sep-16 22:21:20

Did you think your ex was your soulmate at the time? Unfortunately that combination of lust and romance is not necessarily an infallible guide to who will be a good long term pick.

BombadierFritz Fri 16-Sep-16 22:23:24

he told you this for a reason. its not so you trust him. its so he can say 'but I told you who I was'
soul mate talk is pretty innocent naive talk. he has seen you coming. just get rid.

GinBunny Fri 16-Sep-16 22:34:24

My ex dropped that one in to conversation a few times over the years. He's just left me for a 25 year old. Listen to him, he is telling you what he is.

user1471552005 Fri 16-Sep-16 22:38:39

Were you the mistress OP?

NovemberInDailyFailLand Fri 16-Sep-16 22:47:11

It might be jumping the gun a bit to refer to him as your 'soul mate'. Do you tend to get invested very early on?

Thingvellir Fri 16-Sep-16 22:47:42

So he was cheating on someone when he started an affair with you? Can see why the realisation he's a cheating bastard is a head fuck to be frank. He's clearly a twat but hasn't exactly hidden it has he?...

doji Fri 16-Sep-16 22:53:31

Why did he cheat on them all? Unless he's actually shown some serious self-awareness and worked on whatever issues he has that led him to cheat, then yes, he'll cheat on you too. He hasn't just made a couple of mistakes, he has a consistent pattern.

ALaughAMinute Fri 16-Sep-16 22:57:06

It's amazing how you can see the signs early on. Sometimes they are obvious (as in your case) and sometimes they are more subtle but they are almost always there. At least you know OP.

GDarling Fri 16-Sep-16 22:58:21

We humans, mostly women I might add, have some trigger missing in their brains.
Why, Oh why, can't people see when they are being treated wrong?
Why do they put up with crap that makes them so unhappy?
Why don't they listen to others who are trying to help?
What makes them keep going back for more?
We need to put self preservation on the school curriculum!
I'm dumbfounded at what I read on here sometimes...
Please leave him now, go find yourself a gorgeous real man, who is all yours, it might take a while, but do choose carefully.

UnderseaPineapple Fri 16-Sep-16 23:03:06

I'm assuming you left your now ex for him.

You have three options.

1, stay with him and hope you can be the one to change him. (Tip, you won't.)

2, Throw yourself at the mercy of your ex and ask him to take you back. (Bad idea, this. He'll never forgive you and he'll be awful to you for the rest of the relationship).

3, Get rid of boyfriend, go it as a single parent and sort yourself out before embarking on a new relationship with someone who loves you dearly and respects you. You owe yourself and your child this. (This is the best option).

QueenLizIII Fri 16-Sep-16 23:03:18

My ex admitted cheating but didnt seem remorseful at all. Big red flag I overlooked.

Waltermittythesequel Fri 16-Sep-16 23:12:35

What's that saying about marrying mistresses and creating vacancies??

RunRabbitRunRabbit Fri 16-Sep-16 23:41:07

Soulmate. Don't be so daft. That's a sure sign that he "tailors" himself to appear to be the exact person you need right now. He's good with the ladies you see.

If he has told you he always cheats then that's a pretty solid message that he is getting ready to do it to you soon "You knew what I was like".

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