Long story short.....met my partner almost 2yrs ago, we weren't careful and I ended pregnant 6 months into the relationship, now have a perfect 8 month old little boy, he is my world. I'm 31, OH is 34 so we're not kids by any means.
Things have been shit, everything that could go wrong, most certainly has. I feel I didn't really know my OH at all, he's lied to me numerous times, I feel he's shifty. I absolutely adored him up until about 2 months into my pregnancy, then it was like a switch had been flicked and I hated his every breath, thought it was just hormones but I still feel really pissed with him all the time. I don't like him touching me, I hate having sex, cuddled, kisses I feel disgusted by him a lot of the time.
Money has gone missing, he's lied about smoking and debts. We argue constantly.
He says I'm his world and that he loves me more than anything and is scared of losing me but says the nastiest things when we argue, he's told me he will take me to court over our son, reasons unknown as I have never given him any reason to doubt that he has equal rights when it comes to parenting etc.
We fought at the weekend, he said he was leaving (he always says this) as he knows I don't love/like him (he always says this also) he then said he was taking our son for 3 days, he has no family anywhere near so no where to stay and I am still breastfeeding, when I asked where he was taking him, he said it was none of my business......then he went on to say that if we split no man is ever allowed to be in our sons life, that he would have people watching my house to make sure there were no males around whilst our son was with me, that he'd have my door smashed if I didn't obey this rule, he basically said he'd make sure my life was miserable by using our son as his detour.
Now I'm not stupid, or naive, or a pushover, I know this behaviour is unacceptable, manipulative and controlling and I've told him this.
He is saying he has anger problems and that he can't control what he says when he's reached a certain point, he feels ashamed and has said he won't blame me if I want to call it a day. He has contacted the doctors to see about some therapy.
My head is f**d, I don't know what to do, I feel quite depressed today.
I don't even know if I still love this man, he's not turning out to be who I thought he was. I feel embarrassed for having a baby with a man I barely know.
Please offer some words of wisdom or encouragement!
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Allycat1985 · 15/09/2016 21:51
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