A few months ago I posted asking if some of my husband's behaviour is normal - general consensus was "no!!" I have been trying since to leave the controlling relationship but it has been a struggle. A lot has happened over the last few weeks.
So long story short - husband got physically violent and i had him arrested. He didn't get charged. I had locks changed to the house and said he's not coming home (long history of twatty & controlling behaviour before incident!) but that he can see kids. It's been two weeks and the kids have stayed with him (at his family's house) For one night and then two nights on the weeks since. He wanted to reconcile but i have had enough. I've asked him to leave before and he has just refused to leave so it's a weight off my shoulders that he's gone.
Anyway, things he has done since:
- Sent a mass text/facebook message to everyone he knows saying I have been beating him up and have locked him out of the 'family home' (House is mine, he has no rights to it)
- Messaged me saying I am denying access to the children (i'm not, they have stayed over with him each week)
- His mum has told me i've 'not chosen a great time to be doing this' - referring to me breaking up with him - before accusing me of beating him up. All while I had my two year old with me.
- repeatedly rang my family members to justify what has happened
- rang police to get the FULL REPORT (i.e. all he bullshit he has told them about me) sent to everyone including me and social services
- rang social services to find out what i have told them
How do I even begin to deal with all of this? It's hard enough adjusting to life as a single parent without everything thats going on
Has anybody been through similar? Any advice - even just telling me to get on with it - is appreciated!!