Hi Everyone,
I'd first like to say I'm a man.
My DP and I are having some problems and I want to know if it's me overthinking the situation. I don't even know where to start...She loves her wine, until recently she only used to binge a couple of nights a week and then abstain for the rest of the time; she would sit outside with a bottle and phone her friends whilst drinking wine. I don't have a problem with this BUT when she's drunk she normally starts an argument and is so abrasive that one starts. This became a routine especially on Friday nights when she would come home and start a fight (not physical). I'm ashamed to say that my response to this was to go to the office or sleep in the spare room and wait it out until morning when she would be apolegetic and things would be okay for another week. This is not good but I suspect I'm not easy to live with, I'm usually very tired by Friday night and don't really want to go out and I don't really drink very much, maybe 1 beer a week. DP did promise a couple of years ago to stop drinking but it only lasted a few months.. Of late she drinks at least 1 glass every night and most nights it's a bottle.. the problem is that I'm just waiting for it all to kick off again, although more recently she's been okay since I caught her having an emotional affair with a man she met doing a job. That has ended (I'm very sure) but she seems to be spending lots of time with friends or talking with friends on the phone outside and running hot and cold.. Wednesday she suggested we have a quick marriage and thursday I talked to her for an hour at most. This weekend she was away and yesterday when she got back she went to bed. When she got up we spent an hour together and then she decided she was going out.. I sort of feel like she's avoiding me.. Is it just me.. Am I being insecure?
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user1473673684 · 12/09/2016 10:50
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