Dh has been telling me lies about working with a female colleague, speaks about every one else at the office lots but her, untill yesterday when he mentioned her, fist time in 3 years! so I asked why he didn't speak about her much, it would be impossible for him not to work with her because of the job dh does.
My gut feeling is that at worse, I think that he has been flattered by a younger colleague being in awe of him, he has mentored her so it is possible.
He cant afford to let this happen as he has lied an cheated once before an is on last chance. If I had known what I know now I would not of given him that chance to put things right, he has made little effort to make me feel secure an because of his crappy boundaries has messed up several times an hurt me so much in the process.
I have had my suspicions for some time, then earlier this year had my suspicions verified that he had been lying to me, didn't tell him just sat on it. Got accused of being like my mother for stewing that one.
There was a social function where he took photos of her and no one else, photo then deleted when I questioned him. Again all incredible hurtful to me.
Also a incident where she put down phone twice when I answered his phone.
He raged at me last week as he was talking about a job at work, I couldn't remember it, wasn't a job that stood out an in my defence have had a lots of stuff to with deal with this year, which he knows.
His rage and irritation was completely unwarranted an I was really hurt as I do go out of my way to be interested in his work, I have even helped him with jobs.
Have now confronted him, initially he tried to turn it on me an say that he dare not mention any female as I'm such a jealous cow😁 it was really difficult for him poor lamb.
Eventually he admitted to lying as I make such fuss about females he comes into contact with! but could not understand why I was so upset.
He Cant understand why another lie on top of all his others has tipped me over the edge. Or why I feel like I have been treated like a child.
Not sure why I'm posting think I just need some support and a hand hold.
This leaves me unable to hold a normal conversation with him at the end of the work day now as I wont know if he telling the truth, as he proved once again that he still able to Lie to me. leaves me feeling so sad.
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nueday8 · 11/09/2016 10:44
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