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Families and wedding

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SquidgyRedBall · 10/09/2016 23:19

I'm getting married soon however both my siblings are single. One has just split from their fiancée and the other really wants to find someone to settle down not desperate has lots of interest but is waiting for the right person with and is hung up on the fact they still live at home (not that it's an issue at all but they seem to think it is).

Obviously I am over the moon to be getting married and they will both be happy for me and enjoy the wedding day. But apart from not talking about it so as not to seem to be rubbing their noses in it what else can I do to be sensitive to their feelings?

They haven't said anything and seem enthusiastic (as much as siblings will be) but I just remember how desperately sad I was when I split with an ex as other friends and family were getting married and having children.

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Alwayschanging1 · 10/09/2016 23:45

Get over yourself.

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HeddaGarbled · 10/09/2016 23:45

I think you are overthinking this. It is perfectly possible to be happy for a sibling getting married without being sunk into the depths of despair because you aren't. I really, really doubt that they are as jealous and sad as you seem to think they are. Don't be smug. Getting married isn't the pinnacle of achievement. Chill, be normal, don't go on about the wedding all the time, don't regard people who aren't getting married as objects of pity.

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SandyY2K · 11/09/2016 00:43

Just be your normal self. I'm sure they'll be very happy for you regardless of their own circumstances.

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SquidgyRedBall · 11/09/2016 00:45

I'm so glad you said that both of you.

I will get over myself and hope they are happy for me and not use it as a reflection on their own relationships. Maybe I'm being too sensitive to their feelings

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SquidgyRedBall · 11/09/2016 00:53

Sorry sandy I replied before I saw yours.

I don't think they will be jealous or anything like that. It's just knowing how one really wants to find that special someone and settle down and the other has just broken off their engagement and going on how I felt in the past I don't want to be insensitive.

I probably am overthinking it.

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Kittencatkins123 · 11/09/2016 14:49

Maybe they are totally fine, happy for you and happy in themselves, as better to be single than with the wrong person.

Just be normal, not over the top Bridezilla, not downplaying it so as not to 'hurt' them.

They may well be/are likely really excited for you/give zero shits about it all.

It is possible to be single and happy you know. You might think you're being over sensitive but consider also that you're just finding an alternative way to be a patronising, self-indulgent bride to be who feels sorry for everyone who isn't engaged/married. over the moon FFS

People get married all the time and single people are fine with it/enjoy it/are the funnest people at the wedding.

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