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Fuck off you stupid prick

(73 Posts)
Turtlebay Sat 10-Sep-16 23:04:22

Fuck off you stupid prick of a husband, who is now giving me the silent treatment because I dared to go to a final wedding dress fitting with my only sister, for whom I am chief bridesmaid.
For daring to leave you to look after your own children for a few fucking hours after you "had a stressful week!" which included a day playing golf instead of working and finishing each day by 4pm latest and then sitting on your arse on the sofa, watching tv and playing crappy games on your phone, waiting for me to get home from work after picking up three children from various childcare, so you can enquire what I am making you for dinner and moan how it is too late as you want to go to the fucking gym for your 2 hour daily session including sitting in the jacuzzi and sauna.

Fuck off! You've spent most of the last year either shouting at me or ignoring me.
Getting angry if your clothes are not washed or I haven't bought the right food or the house is not clean on my 'days off' which are also spent looking after a two year old!
Fuck off! I don't get a fucking day off, this shit is never ending. I haven't had a full nights sleep in over two years, not that you'd know because while I'm wrestling the toddler you're snoring like a fucking pig!

Yes, I know you earn significantly more than me, which obviously means that your needs far more important than mine. Yes,I know that I'm lucky to have you and there are loads of women lining up to take my place. Yes, I also know that I owe my lovely existence to you and if you leave me I will have nothing.
I know this because you tell me frequently, particularly when I haven't had sex with you as often as you expect. Newsflash, being spoken to like shit is not a turn on, so you might want to try changing your approach.

Do you know what? I don't fucking care about any of it any more, I'm sick of it, the whole fucking thing.
I'd love to tell him all this, but as he is ignoring me and won't listen to anything I say, I can't, so I'm ranting here instead. I normally just get on with things but he's proper pissed me off this time, like a switch has been flicked.

I don't expect any replies, I just needed to get this off my chest. I don't need you to tell me to ltb as clearly I know I should, I just don't have the energy for that battle at the moment.

HeartsTrumpDiamonds Sat 10-Sep-16 23:05:58

Tell him anyway.

Then pack a bag.

Preferably for him.

SaggyNaggy Sat 10-Sep-16 23:06:56

flowers

Go on holiday on your own for a week or so. Leave him with his kids.

WinchesterWoman Sat 10-Sep-16 23:08:20

I don't know anything about leaving a husband but I would have thought the best way is not to start with the battle but to plaster on a smile while you prepare and plan. Can you get some relief from your anger by making some plans ? Don't vent or rant any more, ignore with a beatific smile and make your plans for moving forward without him? (added side bonus - it'll irritate him no end)

idontlikealdi Sat 10-Sep-16 23:08:48

flowersprint this out for him and then pack his bag.

Mosseywossey Sat 10-Sep-16 23:10:07

How do you put up with him!
I would divorce that asshole! He need to buck his ideas up and learn your a team!

PeppasNanna Sat 10-Sep-16 23:12:28

Seriously?

Go away for a weekend.

Go & rest. Sort your head out &:seriously consuder LTB.

Life is short & you sound so miserable.
flowers

PeppasNanna Sat 10-Sep-16 23:12:56

Excuse typos!

timelytess Sat 10-Sep-16 23:13:37

Don't tell him. Just sort yourself and divorce his ass.

DelphiniumBlue Sat 10-Sep-16 23:16:15

Time to make plans.
Start saving. Look into training to increase your earning power. Consult a solicitor to find out what you might be entitled to.
He's not going to get any nicer, is he? He sounds awful.

Turtlebay Sat 10-Sep-16 23:17:03

Yeah you're right, I need to start making a plan. It's just a lot to think about.
Hopefully in the meantime he will be unable to resist one of the hundreds of women flinging themselves at him and leave me anyway, saving me the trouble!

Mistletoekids Sat 10-Sep-16 23:17:22

He sounds pretty entitled

Salary is not a trump card

Turtlebay Sat 10-Sep-16 23:22:24

I am slowly realising he presents himself as Mr nice guy, but he's actually a horrible person, he treats the rest of his family like shit aswell so at least I'm not the only one.

Fuck knows why I married him? I must be a complete idiot.

Solongtoshort Sat 10-Sep-16 23:22:35

I have come to relationships for my own reason but l clicked on your thread because of the word prick, it's my favourite word to call my husband, not helpful l know.

Here's my hopefully helpful part, l have been putting up with similar shit treatment as you for about four years, ever since our dc came along, lt sounds like your getting to the point l am now.

Good luck someone should really pull men aside and tell them how the should care for the woman they love.

Kr1stina Sat 10-Sep-16 23:34:14

You are not an idiot . You married him because he was putting on his act of being a nice guy.

It's not your fault

0SometimesIWonder Sat 10-Sep-16 23:37:37

someone should really pull men aside and tell them

But these aren't men are they; they are spoilt brats, nothing more.

dataandspot Sat 10-Sep-16 23:42:32

And I would question if it was love.....

user1473454752 Sat 10-Sep-16 23:43:53

wwohooooooooooooooooo go girl!!!!!! hes a lazy ass, yes I have one of these and always have and yes it pisses me off and always has done!!!! why are we with these tossers? when we can do so much better in life?????

robertposteschilde Sat 10-Sep-16 23:48:37

Thank fuck I'm single.

WorraLiberty Sat 10-Sep-16 23:49:30

I think the best advice you've had here, is from those advising you to make a plan.

Is there any way you can spend the next year putting money aside, without his knowledge?

TheBouquets Sat 10-Sep-16 23:51:39

You are worth so much more than this. If you can put up with working doing all the childcare and pick ups and al the domestic stuff you don't need an undomesticated lump hanging about like a bad smell.
Go for it, get a new life that does not include a waste of space.

Fanjolena Sat 10-Sep-16 23:52:58

Text it to him. You know the rest.

Comedyusername Sat 10-Sep-16 23:54:22

It sure is tough being a man!
I blame the mothers who let their precious boys become like this.
I will not let my boys become self-centred, lazy, egotistical men (famous last words...)
No advice I'm afraid, but flowers

redannie118 Sat 10-Sep-16 23:56:18

6 years ago I could have written your post word for word. Then I had the realisation that I could not still be here in ten years time. I dumped the wankbadger and I now have a Dh who makes me laugh till I wet myself. Leave him lovely,you will never look back

WheelofPan Sat 10-Sep-16 23:56:54

it's a perpetual wonder to me how people, seemingly bright, aware, assertive, choose to endure shitty behaviour, and go to the ends of their own tethers to facilitate it.

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