I really need a rant I'm so sorry.
So ex left start of year for ow. We have 2 kids and a house together. It has not been easy in fact been a constant bloody fight with him to get him to see the kids and in general be a parent.
Fast forward to last month I got my lawyer to send him a letter regarding the house we own together and about going to mediation again for the kiddies and maintenance. He had 14 days to object if we hadn't heard from him we assumed I could move back to the house and go through cms for maintenance. 3 weeks after we sent the email (we got a receipt of opening) we still hadn't heard anything to I went to cms and started work on the house to make it livable again. Put all my savings into the house to renovate it.(was about 1000 I done all the work myself) had seen his parents in this time the spoke to me like nothing was wrong other than he was in mega debt. (Not my problem) the new mortgage had been transferred too.
I assumed because the mortgage company knew we are separated they would have contact him too. I received a letter today saying they are no.longer giving us a fixed rate. I called to see what the problem was turns out my ex has phoned kicking up hell about how he wasn't informed on the mortgage and isn't happy to go ahead with it as he wants to go to court to force sale!
I'm gutted. I had all these plans for me and the kids I went back to work early to afford the mortgage and bills on my own so he didn't have to contribute anything all I needed was his name to stay on the mortgage until my youngest went to nursery then I could return to work full time.
Why would he not want to know his kids are safe and in a house he knows is good.
Sorry for the long one I just feel deflated and needed to rant
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Lifeisabloodysoap · 07/09/2016 21:37
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