Dry 15

[glad2016]

For all those sober, or would be sober, warriors. KOKO (keep on keeping on) lovely people :)

[glad2016]

New thread! 😁

[lizzytee]

Good morning!

[gottaloveascamhun]

Hello. Hope everylne slept better than me! Ugh. Have a good day.

[SlimCheesy2]

Nice one glad. :)

Morning!!

Wow thread 15. :)

Anyone heard from Lucy? She is back from Oz and I am dying to hear all about it!

[onewhitepillowleft]

wooh! up and at em on the new thread :)

I'm in a pissy mood today. Really overwhelmed about work, feeling guilty that I didn't work enough yesterday and I've agreed to do some extra things today to help out a friend who I spent a lot of time talking to and consoling yesterday, and I was really really really tempted to drink last night, despite the fact that I've spent the last week dishing out advice left right and centre on here as if someone died and make me the expert on sobriety. UGH.

But I didn't drink. I did an extra yoga session and went to bed. Now I'm awake and feeling as guilty and upset as if I did drink. What's that all about?

[buddhasbelly]

just posting to say i'm here. been up all night

[finnishbiscuiteater]

Woo! New thread! I started early on in thread 13, so this feels like a milestone to me ( I've been sober for the whole of dry 14!)

one your advice and support is brilliant and amazing, you keep the thread together. Please don't beat yourself up!

You resisted drinking when you had the urge. Focus on being proud of that. It's not a failing to really really crave a drink, is whether you act in it that is important.

Hugs Buddha, please take care of yourself.

gotta have you tried using sleep apps? They really help me...

[chocoholic89]

Ok I'm here too! Me and dp have now officially made the promise to not drink. It's that ors r relationship is through. Sounds crazy as the whole 8 years of us being together we've had drink in r life but it's been really horrible and rocky non stop arguments.
We both love eachother and want a life together it's certainly the drink that causes problems. Do u think we are just holding on , can it work?
I'm feeling positive. He says he wants to get married to me. I replied well the only promise I want is that there's no drink in our life..it's so hard on what to think or do all his family are so negative about us. He's told them if they can't handle us being together then they don't see us.

[Nobrain]

Room for a newbie? Having drunk around 3 bottles of vodka a week, I've been dry for a little over 3 weeks

[YellowLambBanana]

Morning!

Hugs and to buddha choc and tattoos you sound like you've all been through the mill. Hope you're all keeping strong.

I'm still on with the yoga one managing about every other day - it's really good. Keeping busy with work, walking dogs and running - managed 13 miles on Saturday which is my longest run in years - I'm sure that's due to not drinking - no way I'd have had the stamina if I'd been drinking these last few weeks.

And a wave to strong your night out last night sounds good and another step forward in the sober journey

Welcome nobrain this is a wonderful group.

And hello to everyone else I haven't name checked - I have been reading all the posts and everyone is doing amazing ! Have a good day

[glad2016]

Morning all and welcome everyone to our shiny new thread :)

[chocoholic89]

Weird iv just been talking to dp and said are all drinkers and people who have a drink to "relax" are they all in the same boat as us. Why do people need things like beer or wine to relax people should be happy and content within there life's and not need alcohol to unwind..

[buddhasbelly]

hi all. sorry my posts are very selfish at the moment. i haven't asked how anyone else or anything. the conversation with exdp before he left is starting to come back. i was drunk at the time so remembered v little for the first day or two.

i was pregnant back in march/april time. we lost the baby (i wasn't drinking, was doing well). he accused me of harming the baby and that i caused the m/c. probably the most horrible accusation i've ever had to face.

just feel done in.

[lizzytee]

Onewhitepillow - don't beat yourself up about giving support but also needing support - that's the whole guiding spirit of this group - ie peer to peer. I've learned so much from others, hope I've given something but most of all know I can count on support and a handhold when needed.

Buddha, please take it slowly and sorry that you have had so much sadness and turmoil in a short space of time.

Finnish - me too, joined late in thread 13

Welcome nobrain and well done. How are you feeling?

[tattoosandteadresses]

what an absolutely vile, disgusting thing to say to someone budda You are so, so much better off without him.

Welcome nobrain, great going on the three weeks.

Don't let yourself take on too much pillow if it's possible. I think sometimes we do it to keep ourselves busy then get overwhelmed and stressed and we know where that leads. Back to basics and some TLC? I always love reading your advice btw it's very well thought out and sensible.

Great going yellow, are you planning a half or anything? My name was down for the vlm ballot but wouldn't be able to do it now even with the slimest of chances I get picked.

choc it must be hard finding your footing as a couple going sober when alcohol has been part of your lives together. Sorry no advice as I've never been in that situation but rooting for yous.

Awful night last night. Trying to get dd into her own bed atm and it progressed to three hours of screaming. She hates me, I'm mean, I'm never nice to her blah blah. I ended up shouting too as I lost my patience plus it was the first day without cigarettes so a bit of nicotine deprivation I hate being shouty mum as my own was like that growing up and I always swore I'd never be Wish me luck tonight is easier.

Also found out ds is being bullied on the way home from school and I feel awful that he has been bottling it up a little while and didn't feel like he could talk to me about it. Twigged when I kept catching him on doing sit ups and press ups every night to 'get strong'. I feel I deserve a crap mother award today.

[chocoholic89]

Aww tattoos thank you! Children are hard work I still have to lie in bed with my ds till he's asleep. It use to take hours but now gradually takes about 15 mins after story plus moving his bedtime tI'll about 8-30 keep persistent. 😅

[Nobrain]

Buddah

Thanks for the welcome everyone. I'm not going to lie, it's fucking hard and I'm still craving badly. Having drunk almost every day since 2009 (bar being pregnant) It's a real struggle. My Mother was an alcoholic (quacks think my love of drinking could be genetic) and I don't want my daughter growing up like I did. Luckily I'm getting great support from a friend. Not so much from DH.

[gottaloveascamhun]

Buddha how horrible :( you are most definitely better off without him.

nobrain it will get easier. Look after yourself and give yourself sober treats to reward every day.

[tattoosandteadresses]

Thanks choc, it was one those ones once I started I couldn't back down . She has always been a nightmare sleeper, even from a baby. Thing is I'll put in all this effort but once she goes to dads, it'll be back to square one as he just gives into her in every way, she walks all over him Still willing to give it a go, persistence beats resistance as they say

Only started the headspace two days ago but eyeing up subscribing, I see there is a childrens one for sleep. Willing to try anything and dd finds it hard to unwind, always on the go and needing attention. She's exhausting tbh but I see a lot of her more highly strung and fidgety personality traits are similar to my own. You have the subscription don't you pillow, any thoughts what the kids ones are like?

Great reason second to stopping for yourself than to put an end to history repeating itself nobrain. Wonderful you have support from a friend, are you doing anything else support/recovery wise?

[buddhasbelly]

still here. boss has granted time off which i am so so grateful for. i had a lot of time off earlier this year due to seizures (around pregnancy time) which were un alcohol related so i feel really grateful that my boss has granted this time.

[vxa2]

I'm here. Will catch up with thread later today.

[newleaf81]

have been lurking for a long time and have been in denial. Recovering from a 5 day binge and just feeling absolutely terrible. really can't let this happen again.

[newleaf81]

DH said this morning he doesn't want an alcoholic for a wife as well as finally posting here have called drink line and they have given me details of local support group. need to do something different this time to break the cycle.

[buddhasbelly]

huge hugs newleaf, the support you get here is non judgmental and knowledgeable. i've struggled a lot over the last few days and the posters here have been brilliant. take care x

[chocoholic89]

Hi newbies. Uv been in this thread for few weeks then had a blip with the drink now back on. I want to make changes in my life and enjoy it me and my dp have been together years drinking-arguments-drinking and fighting people know the cycle. We are now going to go sober together ors that will be it we realised we both been stuck in a rut, but we have small dc and we want to enjoy them and eachother. Life's a bitch but we have to be strong and face the problems sober and not hide behind the bottle x