Found out in June my husband of 12 years had been online dating and cheating on me for months. He wasn't a good husband before this: selfish, unsupportive, disinterested in kids (ages 10, 6 and 2) etc so I wasn't heartbroken when he moved out in July. Since then I've just been staggered by just how selfish he is being. He promised to take kids camping then just changed his mind. His idea of 'sharing the parenting responsibility' hasn't gone beyond him coming round for an hour at a time (he juSt turns up when he feels like it) - says his house isn't set up for kids. He refuses point blank to have anything to do with our 2 year old dd - he says 'she does his head in'. He's unreliable: was supposed to pick up ds from a weekend he had away but he said he 'couldn't' at last mimute and I had to drop everything to make the 4 hour round trip. I'm exhausted. I need a break but how can I get him to step up and actually share the parenting? (I've had kids every single day since his bombshell). Should I threaten to not let him see them at all?
He's also completely plundered our joint account (up to overdraft limit) to furnish his new place despite me insisting repeatedly that he needs to come off our account, set up his own and pay me maintenance. So I'm desperately worried about money too as he just doesn't seem to give a shit about the impact on us. I will get legal advice when I have the money. Can I ask bank to bar him from account? It was mine originally.
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What should i do - Ex will take no responsibility
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