Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide, which can point you to expert advice and support.

I think it's over

(3 Posts)
Juststopit Sat 03-Sep-16 17:32:09

Another long one so get comfy. Been with OH for 25 years, married for 21 over the last 6 months we have been arguing more, I ve been questioning wether he still has feelings for me. He's never been romantic or affectionate but is a good dad. He's terrible at talking, tends to go silent and gets very defensive. I get blamed for most of what is wrong in our relationship, everyone who knows us would describe me as hot headed and him as wonderful. I've recently been diagnosed with severe depression, and have started citalopram, I've started to feel a lot clearer in my thinking and also feel that it's not all me, in the past I've always thought of myself as a terrible person but I've started to realise that actually I m ok. He never compliments me, never tells me he loves me, never does any nice gestures, never organises any days out or dates for us, it always me. He would rather watch tv, look at his tablet or do a crossword!
My head tells me to leave, I deserve more and life is for living not existing, the kids are great and I know would adjust but I still love him. What to do?!

StirredNotShaken Sat 03-Sep-16 17:37:16

He sounds like Doc Martin! Only less intelligent, you definitely deserve better.

Juststopit Sat 03-Sep-16 17:42:37

Lol that made me laugh! Yes I think you're right, marginally better looking but I just want to enjoy life, even if it's on my own.

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now