Hello all, long time lurker, first time poster, so please be gentle!
My partner of 6 years (we are 24) has recently told me that he feels that he has mental health issues. His family (he is NC with them) also have a variety of MH problems, including hypochondria and various undiagnosed things, so it is possible that his problem is inherited.
I'm not doubting that he has a problem - he has been to the doctor and been diagnosed with anxiety/depression and is on antidepressants, the dose of which keeps getting upped that don't seem to help. We both feel the depression is a symptom, not the problem itself, but have no idea what that could be!
Sorry to ramble...I guess my main issue is that he feels that he needs to be 'protected' from adult life now - no helping with finance, work or housework. This puts a lot of pressure on me, as I am having to do all of these things alone, and it's a lot of work! It doesn't help that my job is seasonal and I'm having to take on a second role, if I can fit it around university.
He doesn't do anything himself (apart from his own personal care of course) and won't even do things he enjoys alone - I have to initiate/join/provide all entertainment. Unfortunately we don't really enjoy the same things so I am sacrificing my hobbies to help him with his.
However, even though I have taken on all of the adult stresses he faces, I am constantly told that it is not enough, and that I need to do more. Everything needs to be alphabetised etc.
Should I do it? Do I need to 'love bomb' him through his MH issues, or will doing more just make him worse? I'm not sure if I'm helping or just making things worse at this point.
Sorry for the long post, my mind is a bit jumbled at the moment!
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Am I unreasonable, or just enabling him?
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