My husband has become very very verbally & emotionally abusive which he says is a reaction to my actions. I had an affair and told him I wanted a divorce. He moved out of the house - I did offer but this was the easiest solution due to having children.
It got so bad the police were called (not by me) and I was contacted by the Domestic Abuse Unit. This was in the last months and it has just continued.
Now we have fallen into a pattern of him being 'nice' via texts/phone but the second he doesn't get his own way he turns again.
There were occasions throughout our marriage when we had incidents but I just passed them off as normal marital tiffs - one occasion I apparently asked him in the wrong tone of voice if he wanted cream or ice-cream & he didn't speak to me for a week.
I am not making any excuses for my actions I'm just trying to quantify his reactions. He has literally called me the worst ever names in front of our children and anyone that will listen. He has damaged my property. He has threatened suicide on numerous occasions.
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Is it abuse or just a reaction to my actions ?
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user1471499145 · 02/09/2016 08:39
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