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Nobody likes me ...they never do.

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user1471888857 Mon 29-Aug-16 16:14:47

Wasn't sure what category this would go..so I thought I would put it here.
I'm 30 years old and I'm very unliked.
In all them years I made 3 good friends.
1 turned out to not be a friend after all (after 10 years) she stole out of my bag and was only my friend when it suited.
The other friend always try's to make me the but of all jokes,she will compliment everyone else but never ever me.
Luckily my other friend I would trust her with my life.
I live on quite a rough council estate and I don't fit in.
I've lived here all my life and they all think I'm either a lesbian or a snob.
I'm not like them.
The majority walk around in their pjs or track suits and I like to make a effort ..regularly get told "who does she think she is"
Or "she loves herself her"
I don't .far from it.
My friend invited me to go out with her friends ..over heard them slagging me off in the toilets.
Skinny bitch and did you see how short her skirt was.
Nobody ever likes me and it gets me down

Horsemad Mon 29-Aug-16 16:18:41

You need new friends.

EmmaMacgill Mon 29-Aug-16 16:21:40

Agree with Horsemad Do you have a low opinion of yourself and therefore surround yourself with people who will undermine you?
These people are the problem not you

user1471888857 Mon 29-Aug-16 16:23:18

Even random people make assumptions about me too.
Some people seem to get on with everyone yet never me.

seahorse106 Mon 29-Aug-16 16:25:47

Is there any way of you meeting some new people through work or a club or something?
I was in a similar situation so I started going to church, I have loads of lovely friends now!
Xxx

emilybrontescorset Mon 29-Aug-16 16:27:15

I was going to suggest joining a hobby group eg
Book club
Gym
Running club
Sewing club
Anything which interests you.
Then you will be with similar people.

EmmaMacgill Mon 29-Aug-16 18:03:06

Are you working? Do you get on with your work mates?
Maybe you could start an interesting college course to meet new people

user1471888857 Mon 29-Aug-16 18:12:53

I'm a carer at the moment and it can be very isolating.
I would love to do a cookery course.
I think il see if I can find something local

ModreB Mon 29-Aug-16 20:56:58

Your post resonates with me. I have no friends. None.

I have lots of people who are nearly friends. But none who are friends. DH has lots of friends, but that's him.

It's not that people don't like me, lots do. I just don't like many people enough to spend time with.

I would be happy with friends at a distance.

DevilsInTheDetail Mon 29-Aug-16 21:16:28

Your post resonates with me too OP, ever since i moved cities. It seems to be i cant really connect with people as much as i try maybe I try too hard, so i spend alot of time alone.

It sounds like the people around you are sapping your self esteem? No one is worth that.
If they cant be arsed to make the effort in themselves thats their problem not yours.

PastaLaFeasta Mon 29-Aug-16 21:31:48

You are young and presume unattached, there is so much out there to do, don't fester where you are so unhappy. First step could be counselling - ACT is different to the usual and will help with the "story" you are telling yourself about being disliked and judged. There are books if no counselling is available. I have a similar story and it's bloody hard going and it won't be easy to escape this hole. You will find people "like you" out there, figure out what you want from life and take small steps, it's easier to make friends doing what you enjoy and when you are more compassionate to yourself.

ThreeSheetsToTheWind Mon 29-Aug-16 21:44:58

You will find people that like you. You need to like yourself first.

I could have written your post. Someone said to me a long time ago that I 'walk to the beat of my own drum' and I think that sums it all up. I don't fit in with the majority in a lot of ways but that doesn't bother me at all. Don't worry about it, do your own thing, spend time on stuff that interests you, benefits you. Life is too short to worry. flowers

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