First post so please be gentle....
So my OH lives around 15 miles from me, roughly a half hours drive. I'm the only driver (don't get me started on that - that's another issue!).
So anyway, we've been together around a year. He still lives at home with his parents, as do I. We are both 25.
We are saving to buy a house together, the only thing is that we can't agree on where to live. His work is only a 5 minute walk from his front door at the moment which makes sense for him to live there. All his friends etc nearby as well.
The same goes for me, friends/family all local to where I am, my work is closer to where I live. The other thing (and as much as I sound stuck up here!) is that where he is from isn't the nicest of areas, all very run down, nothing there apart from houses and supermarkets. It doesn't appeal to me at all to live there, I think I would be miserable.
I'll also be brutally honest and say that I'm not really wanting to live near his mum. She still does absolutely everything for him, from ironing to changing his bedsheets. He's 25 and still wrapped in cotton wool. They are really close and I can genuinely see her "popping by" every single night if we lived close to her. Would be an absolute nightmare.
At the moment I really don't know what to suggest about where we should live. I've told him I don't want to live where he is - just based on it being so far away from everyone. I tend to be the more social one out of the two of us - meet up with friends more etc.
Am I being selfish saying no to living nearby where he is? Should he have to uproot his life and move away from everything he knows for me? Has anyone been in this situation before and can shed light?
P.s he is good friends with my brother etc that I know he could spend time with here - he wouldn't be alone.
Honest answers please.
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We can't agree on where to live
PenelopePitstop24 · 29/08/2016 10:26
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