Sex 17 years in. How often how good and how long?

[Wrinklesandspotstoo]

Just that really.....

[PickAChew]

14 years, as often as we want it (ie not very often) anything from disastrous to earth moving and never too long!

[AnyFucker]

You first

[Wrinklesandspotstoo]

Maybe the question should have been when did it cross over from being toe curlingly great to perfunctory as in get what you need and move on. For the benefit of truth it's just as much my fault! What to do!

[OvertiredandConfused]

18 years in, married for 17, DC 13 & 15.

Can't remember whether it was 2015 or 2014! Certainly not this year.

[Wrinklesandspotstoo]

Don't you get frustrated overtired?

[shaggedthruahedgebackwards]

Together 18 years, married 15 years

Things have dwindled over past 4-5 years here if I'm honest

Have slipped from weekly, to every couple of weeks to sometimes only once a month

[DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen]

Together 27 years and tbh it's better than it's ever been. Quality over quantity these days ,the heady days of 3x a day are long gone

[n0ne]

Together 9 years, maybe get round to DTD 4-5 times a year. I know

In our defence we have a toddler who ends up in our bed a few nights a week and every morning, and I've had 2 mcs in the last year which is distinctly off-putting.

[Wrinklesandspotstoo]

are there any couples
Who have managed to get it back once the kid/s have reached adulthood?

[PuellaEstCornelia]

24 years once/ twice a week, doesn't last that long ( unless we're pissed) but knows how to make me cum in 5 mins anyway

[Somerville]

I was married for 15 years. (Late) DH and I had a few dry-ish spells, but always managed to work out what was stopping us and fix it. (Helped that it was usually something practical, rather than emotional, which I'm sure is harder to fix.) So worry about kids walking in on us = lock on our door. Too tired in the morning to orgasm (me) = I get a lie in then breakfast in bed first. Too tired at night to stay awake to do it (him) = sex straight after putting the kids to bed.

[inastew]

PuellaEstCornelia - "knows how to make me cum in 5 mins anyway" ?

Reveal all please! more details ta

[Longislandicetee]

Any Fucker.

[MysweetAudrina]

Together 18 years. Sex at least once a week always. Ensures I have an orgasm every time. Sex has gotten better if sometimes it can get a little routine and a means to an end.

[Ginkypig]

Nearly 15 years.

Not in the last year but that has been down to a variety of things not least of which is my ill health has made things very difficult. Hopefully it will get back to normal.

But before that anything from 1nce a week to once a month. To every couple of months depending on my health.

Lasts about an hour start to finish he always makes sure i orgasm as I do for him so generally satisfying if a little predictable sometimes.

[OvertiredandConfused]

I think we've both fallen in to a rut and don't expect any more .

We do still spend time together, hold hands etc. It does bother me, but not enough to potentially end my marriage.

[ThroughThickAndThin01]

Together 27 years. Average now I'd say once a week. Maybe twice.

This week we are on holiday and back to the heady days of our youth sex on 5 days out of 7

[TheRadiantAerynSun]

21yrs together and we DTD most days. Sometimes it's amazing. Sometimes it's functional. Sometimes it's 5 minutes. Sometimes it's 2hrs. Usually we both come, but sometimes it's just me and sometimes it's just him.

[headinhands]

It's hard to say as we tend to 'binge fuck' as in none for a couple of weeks and then 6 times in a weekend. Is often filthy too so still satisfying.

[Cocklodger]

8 years.
How often we do it depends on lots of things but on average I'd say about 5 times a week, sometimes every day, sometimes we don't do it for up to a week but that's rare (smug)
It's still pretty good as we're pretty conscious of the others needs. Never shorter than 20 mins or so. So even if I don't orgasm before he does he's quite happy to keep working on me. Rarely he will get too tired to continue and then I will too as its taking so long (we really need a smug emoji now) or maybe it's because we're getting old and just cba. But anyway. I'm happy to carry on doing something or other until he does orgasm. It's just about being considerate to the others needs tbh

[IHeartKingThistle]

18 years. About once a week. Very often on weekend mornings.

[LondonStill83]

Such pointed questions op...

[TheLastRoseOfSummer]

Why are people prepared to divulge so much to someone who has given absolutely nothing at all..?

[6demandingchildren]

Married 20 years. Had our moments of frustration
Kids/cancer/teenagers/broken neck
But always seem to get it back on track.
It has got better over the years

[headinhands]

Why are people prepared to divulge so much to someone who has given absolutely nothing at all..?

I can't see any negative comebacks from telling someone on the internet how often I dtd. (No pun intended)

Now if op had asked what my dob/bank details NI number were I'd be a lot less forthcoming. (There I go again!)