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Why do men of all ages want women in their early-mid 20's....

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user1472403155 Sun 28-Aug-16 18:03:13

2 different studies, same results :

time.com/3433014/men-women-dating-mid-20s/

time.com/3302251/9-ugly-truths-big-data-ok-cupid-book/

Doesn't make any sense, does it?

expatinscotland Sun 28-Aug-16 18:05:01

I'm in my mid-40s and get hit on by men 20+ years older than I am often enough. No idea why. There's no way. These men are delusional for the most part, the very rich excepted.

happyandsingle Sun 28-Aug-16 18:06:13

but a lot of these men will not be able to get women this young anyway so what they want and what they can get are totally different.

raisedbyguineapigs Sun 28-Aug-16 18:06:58

Well it makes sense from a biological sense, as women I their 20's are at their most fertile. But whether a balding fat middle aged man would be able to pull a 20 year old and get her pregnant is another matter entirely.

Snowshimmer Sun 28-Aug-16 18:07:18

Becaue they're pretty and do not have enough experience to know when to LTB.

Iwasjustabouttosaythat Sun 28-Aug-16 18:08:11

Because it's as young as they can go with it still being socially acceptable.

Snowshimmer Sun 28-Aug-16 18:08:13

Older women accept less bullshit and aren't status symbols.

NickiFury Sun 28-Aug-16 18:09:12

Because it's what many men are socialised to think they're entitled to; Hot, fit young women. Doesn't matter what they themselves have to offer, that's why they so often get angry and abusive when turned down by women.

80sMum Sun 28-Aug-16 18:09:41

Because they are pretty, have unwrinkled skin, no stretch marks and their boobs don't sag? Men are very visual.

Cabrinha Sun 28-Aug-16 18:10:09

I haven't even looked at your links, but I'm not sure why it wouldn't make sense?

- good bodies to look at, in line with what society says is beautiful (and I include myself in that, which my 41 year old grey hair that looks as warm brown as it did when I was 25 thanks to intervention)

- presumably some biological urge for physically fit reproductive vehicles that are both fertile and have some life down left in which to care for the offspring

- less fundamental and not appealing to all men - but, you get a position of seniority - financial, experience, etc if you are an older man

- society doesn't (mostly) condemn it. You might get a cynical eyebrow or an outright laugh at a 60 year old with a 25 year old - you wouldn't get outright disgust though

- men feeling like they have achieved more than other men, won a competition if they have attracted young attractive partners...

I'm sure you come up with plenty of other reasons.

user1472403155 Sun 28-Aug-16 18:10:50

Expat, I have posted and lurked on forums that are very young male dominated and if I had a nickel for every thread that revolved around how much easier it is to ''pump and dump'' single mothers and middle aged women... I do know many of them being very fond of the saying : ''women are like crap : the older they are, the easier they are to pick up''. hmm

ageingrunner Sun 28-Aug-16 18:11:22

I think that films have a lot to answer for too. They often have a much older hero with a young heroine. Men see this and think it's normal and to be expected the thick twats

Snowshimmer Sun 28-Aug-16 18:13:04

Definitely age. Porn as well.

phoenix1973 Sun 28-Aug-16 18:13:16

Older women usually know a fuckwit chancer when they see one. They are also less likely to be the worshipping type as they've seen it all before.
The guys want their ego and cock massaged by someone young, firm, pretty and with little enough intellect to pose any threat to their masculinity.

StillDrSethHazlittMD Sun 28-Aug-16 18:14:01

Why do SOME men would be the more accurate title.

I'm a 42-year old man and I have no interest in dating women in their early, mid or late 20s.

MilkTwoSugarsThanks Sun 28-Aug-16 18:14:40

Isn't simply because we're creatures and creatures are attracted to those they can procreate with? Simple biological fact is that women in their 20s are more fertile than women in their 30s, 40s or 50s.

HelenaDove Sun 28-Aug-16 18:15:47

Those films are basically Hollywood producers sexual fantasies. User147...............that is vile.

JenLindleyShitMom Sun 28-Aug-16 18:18:12

Because anyone younger than early-mid 20's is either a) illegal and/or b) not earning enough money to not be sponging off said man. And well, why would they want older? hmm

HelenaDove Sun 28-Aug-16 18:18:18

I second what expat said. Im 43 I tend to get hit on by men from any age over 25 but a lot of them over the years have been between 60 and 75!!!

BombadierFritz Sun 28-Aug-16 18:24:15

lol to the idea of young men thinking they are "pumping and dumping" the older women. maybe they are being used for their younger fitter bodies and stronger erections. I cant see an older woman actually wanting to spend longer in the company of a man with such idiotic thinking as "pumping and dumping" so im not surprised they dont hang around for a second date. men of all ages _ delusional.

Shallishanti Sun 28-Aug-16 18:26:25

the thing is though, I despise men who say they want a substantially younger partner- I agree with all the reasons PP have outlined but I find it hard to understand that the men themselves don't see how delusional they are- I am in my 50s and if a man of my acquaintance and a similar age tried to find a partner in their 20s...well they would not be spending any time round me (or my daughters)

Runoutoftime16 Sun 28-Aug-16 19:04:58

Tough as it is to face, its biology as others have said we are all more pre-programmed than we like to think to procreate healthy offspring and that was the original reason for sex believe it or not!? ( I talk as an older woman but also someone who lives in planet reality).

The positives are that I am more likely to find a partner who I have things in common with rather than just looks. When I was younger I thought lots of men (old and young) actually liked me and fancied me, how silly I was, it was just lust not love!

user1472403155 Sun 28-Aug-16 19:10:26

I doubt this is anything new or having to do with movies, older men with power in all cultures have have always tried to ''hog'' young women (whether they were rulers of enormous empires like Genghis Khan's or tiny villages in the Amazon jungle). Muhammad, for example, had dozens of wives and sex slaves, the youngest one being 9 (Aisha) when he started having sex with her.

Snowshimmer Sun 28-Aug-16 19:13:27

No it is not new, but the culture and media of a society will influence men's tastes and beliefs about relationships with women.

Not to nitpick but I would call what Muhammad did "child rape" not sex.

Trills Sun 28-Aug-16 19:13:56

Hi user4190489028 - did you know you can change your name?

There are a lot of people around at the moment with default usernames and it'll make things nicer for everyone.

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