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Would this statement irritate you too?

(166 Posts)
Wheretheresteqthereshope Fri 26-Aug-16 07:57:05

"Men fancy 20-24 year olds"

This is what my new partner of mere months said to me. I'm 34, the same age as him.

BeingATwatItsABingThing Fri 26-Aug-16 07:59:09

What? He said that to you?!? I'm not one to throw this out there but LTB!

BeingATwatItsABingThing Fri 26-Aug-16 08:00:20

Right, I've had a minute to digest. I have a question. Was there any context or did he just say it?

timelytess Fri 26-Aug-16 08:00:58

Get rid. Why not?

SanityClause Fri 26-Aug-16 08:02:51

As he can't possibly speak for all men, I would suggest he means that he fancies 20-24 year olds (what, all of them?).

Ask yourself why he would say it to you. Is he trying to make you feel insecure in the relationship?

That would be my take on it.

OneArt Fri 26-Aug-16 08:03:07

Yes it would irritate me! Was he saying it's not their fault, the poor little men, they're biologically designed to maximise their chance of procreating blah blah blah?

What a twat.

Wheretheresteqthereshope Fri 26-Aug-16 08:05:00

The context was a friend of his who is roughly the same age as us, messaging girls who are 20. I think it's odd as I remember being 20 and 30+ Was old! I'm not against age gaps, it was an observation, a generalisation if you like. And he at first agreed it was a 'little creepy' but then fired that back at me. Apparently studies have proven it hmm

BeingATwatItsABingThing Fri 26-Aug-16 08:05:16

I fit into that age category and I think I can say on behalf of my fellow 20-24 women, we don't fancy him.

Wheretheresteqthereshope Fri 26-Aug-16 08:05:32

OneArt that's exactly what I thought.

DoinItFine Fri 26-Aug-16 08:07:14

Dump

M0rven Fri 26-Aug-16 08:07:30

He's trying to make you feel insecure and lucky to have him.

Red flag . Keep an eye out for more and don't move in with him yet .

whattheseithakasmean Fri 26-Aug-16 08:09:14

OMG, he sounds awful. What he means is he fancies 20-24 year old women. Which sounds well dodgy to me. He is saying 'all men' so it doesn't sound as bad but in no way can he or does he speak for all men. Yuck.

DownTownAbbey Fri 26-Aug-16 08:10:46

But actively pursuing them is creepy. I'd be annoyed he's defending his friend and livid that he thought that way at all.

TheStoic Fri 26-Aug-16 08:12:15

Just tell him women fancy rich men, but you decided to overlook that due to his charming personality.

BeingATwatItsABingThing Fri 26-Aug-16 08:12:54

Thank you for providing some context. My opinion of him hasn't changed.

Wheretheresteqthereshope Fri 26-Aug-16 08:12:58

It's grim isn't it. Glad I'm not the only one who thinks so. How disappointing.

user7755 Fri 26-Aug-16 08:14:03

Isn't he your ex by now? What a twat

user7755 Fri 26-Aug-16 08:14:50

Being a twat grin

OneArt Fri 26-Aug-16 08:16:58

Ask him for a link to these studies.

SlinkyVagabond Fri 26-Aug-16 08:17:57

For men, read "I".

Trifleorbust Fri 26-Aug-16 08:18:56

I think this is harsh. Men DO fancy 20-24 year olds. And 34 year olds. Some men only fancy younger women. The question is whether he means they fancy 20-24 year olds and therefore messaging one is okay, or whether he means they (and therefore he) fancy 20-24 year olds exclusively?

cauliflowercheese14 Fri 26-Aug-16 08:20:48

What a tosser. Get rid.

BeingATwatItsABingThing Fri 26-Aug-16 08:21:26

Trifle, I think telling your DP (who is 34) that "men fancy 20-24 year olds" is horribly insensitive.

FreshHorizons Fri 26-Aug-16 08:24:46

Does he realise that he seems old to them?

DollyBarton Fri 26-Aug-16 08:26:26

My type of man wouldn't make a statement like that.

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