Me and DH have been having issues for about a year now. It feels a bit epic, I've posted before, and I don't want to drip feed, so I'll try to summarise.
We have a son who is nearly two. DH is a brilliant dad, we genuinely co-parent, but it's like DS is the only important thing anymore for both of us.
DH can be very moody and PA in arguments, and so we decided to go to counselling which we did about 6 months ago. DH told me in these sessions that he just doesn't find me attractive any more, and feels I should lose weight. He's also been quite disparaging about other issues, upper lip hair for example (I'm quite dark).
I've been for a course of laser treatment on my lip, and I've tried to diet, but I've got to be honest, my heart isn't in it - I can't help but feel that if it's not one thing, it's another.
My self confidence is completely shot, and I'm not sure I can go on feeling inadequate. I feel like I might be better off on my own, but it feels like a terrifying step.
We've talked about separating, all our fights seem to lead to the conversation coming back up, but there's such huge implications for our son, and our finances, that we just end up saying that we will 'try harder'. But I never feel like he does much of the trying.
We hadn't had sex in about 5 months, and we just had a week's holiday together without DS. It was pleasant and we got on ok, but when we finally had sex (we obviously both felt we 'should ') it was awkward. Knowing he isn't attracted to me makes me feel less attracted to him and I'm mentally picking fault now.
I kinda feel like I can do better with the next 40 or so years of my life than being with someone who doesn't seem that excited by me. But divorce terrifies me, and I'm worried about the implications for our son.
Ramble ramble, sorry.
Any words of wisdom? Any marriages come back from this?
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Nessalina · 25/08/2016 08:55
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