Hi, this is long as I'm so confused I really need to type it all down even if I don't get any replies...
So we had DC1 11 months ago, born vaginally but with stirrups/epiostomy/kiwi and DH was at the birth but our sex life had stalled before then as he 'didn't want to hurt the baby when I was pregnant'. I thought it would get better once the baby came but we have had sex 3 times in the past 11 months and I utterly feel at my wits end.
We BOTH want another baby now, I am ovulating at the moment but he won't have sex with me. I've tried everything before we even decided we wanted another - so I don't think it's that he's necessarily feeling under 'pressure' but there is ALWAYS an excuse. He's too tired, he's aching, his back hurts, he's not 'a performing monkey', he doesn't like planned sex. Or he just falls asleep on the sofa after a few beers.
I'm at my lowest confidence ever, I feel so disgusting and awful. I have stretchmarks, I'm now a size 16 (I was a 10) but I have no motivation to do anything because I feel so dispondent and angry. Tonight I'm lying in bed furious and upset because yet again I've been knocked back & yet again nothing I do turns him on or makes him want me. I scream of desperation because I'm so fucking angry all the time. I think I need to leave him
Writing it down makes me sound like I'm crazy & I know it would be different if I was a man pestering a woman for sex, but I just don't understand... We did have 'good' sex once upon a time but now he just isn't interested AT ALL.
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DH doesn't want sex 11 months after DC, but he wants another baby?!
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RawrImADinosaur · 24/08/2016 22:39
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