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Split the bill or not?what would you have done?

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user1471888857 Wed 24-Aug-16 12:37:47

So I met up by myself with a friend and her 3 children for lunch.
I ordered my food and a drink which in total came to £10 exactly.
My friends food was £10 and for the 3 kids it was £22.
The bill came for £42 and my friend said "so that's £21 each"
I was kind of flustered and didn't want to come across greedy so I just paid the £22.
What the hell..surely she knew her share was more with the 3 kids.

AntoninArtaud Wed 24-Aug-16 12:40:19

This is why I don't see the benefits in splitting the bill, and always insist on paying for my own share. I don't see why you should pay for her children!

StillDrSethHazlittMD Wed 24-Aug-16 12:42:23

Your friend is a crafty sod and she knows it. And not much of a friend.

Shayelle Wed 24-Aug-16 12:42:32

Wow. Cheek!!! angry

user1471888857 Wed 24-Aug-16 12:43:28

It happened pretty fast ..she had her share on the table and purse was away and she was taking her youngest to the toilet.
I'm not a greedy person and Her kids are lovely but I'm not made of money myself.

Tomselleckhaskindeyes Wed 24-Aug-16 12:48:46

I have 3 kids wouldn't dream of doing this. How rude.

ImperialBlether Wed 24-Aug-16 12:51:31

That's really cheeky! So your bill would've been £10? It's one thing for you to offer to split it (if you have the money and the inclination) but for her to assume? That's not on.

SocksRock Wed 24-Aug-16 12:57:34

I have 3 kids and am always scrupulous about paying my full share. My best meals out are with friends who also have 3 kids and then we just split it :-)

PurpleDaisies Wed 24-Aug-16 12:58:27

Wow, that's so cheeky! I would have just paid my share.

DixieWishbone Wed 24-Aug-16 13:00:28

Socks presumably you offered to pay though, your friends didn't just assume you were happy with paying more than double your share.

TealGiraffe Wed 24-Aug-16 13:00:44

Wow so cheeky!! I don't have kids, and when i go out with my friends that do they always put in extra as they have more people! If it was a couple of quid for one kids meal i wouldn't be arsed, but she basically conned you out of a tenner!

MiddleClassProblem Wed 24-Aug-16 13:01:01

That's very cheeky, I would have liked to have said "oh, mines just a tenner but I'll do the service too" but prob would have done what you did tbh.

Can we help you find a username though?

Chottie Wed 24-Aug-16 13:01:43

That is out of order. I would not be meeting her for lunch again in a hurry.

SocksRock Wed 24-Aug-16 13:02:50

Um, I usually I have to pay more? I'm the one with all the kids and I would never assume anyone was happy to subsidise them. We just split when we have an equal number of children - my best friend has 3 as well, so nice and easy then.

OlennasWimple Wed 24-Aug-16 13:05:05

I've been pleasantly surprised when friends without children have split the bill evenly with me with 2 DC, but I would never, ever expect it.

KitKat1985 Wed 24-Aug-16 13:05:24

She was out of order. Next time make sure to get in first and put a tenner down and say 'that should cover what I ordered' or similar before she suggests splitting it.

user1471888857 Wed 24-Aug-16 13:12:47

I've been trying to change my user name but can't remember what password I chose angry

Floggingmolly Wed 24-Aug-16 13:12:50

Massively cheeky; unless she's actually a bit thick?

clam Wed 24-Aug-16 13:13:24

This sort of thing pisses me off. If ever I'm in a group and splitting the bill is suggested, I will always be the one to check that everyone's happy about that and offer to pay more if I've had wine and others haven't.

But I bet if you'd quite reasonably pointed out that there were 4 of them and 1 of you, she'd have gone away thinking you were being stingy.

maddiemookins16mum Wed 24-Aug-16 13:17:36

Cheeky mare!!

AdjustableWench Wed 24-Aug-16 13:17:45

Next time she wants to go out I'd suggest a picnic in the park. She brings food for herself and her kids; you bring your own. If she turns down the idea you'll know why.

PersianCatLady Wed 24-Aug-16 13:17:46

You should have said no it is £42 / 5 so that makes £8.40 each, here is £9.

She would have soon put you right that yours was £10.

expatinscotland Wed 24-Aug-16 13:18:03

'I was kind of flustered and didn't want to come across greedy so I just paid the £22.'

That's exactly what she was counting on. She's got a helluva cheek. That would be the last time I met up with her unless you're able to develop some assertiveness and call her out when she tries this on or tell her before meeting that there'll be no splitting the bill.

ParanoidGynodroid Wed 24-Aug-16 13:26:05

WWIHD, you ask? I'd probably have paid up in shocked disbelief and fumed afterwards, probably starting an MN thread to grumble!

But I'd also have made a mental note to avoid this pisstaker in future.

MargaretCavendish Wed 24-Aug-16 13:27:23

I would love to say that I would have spoken up but I know I wouldn't because I had an incident quite like this the other day! Went out for lunch after a work event with three work contacts (so a network-y rather than fun trip, but on my own dime). They picked somewhere where the only vegetarian thing on the menu was a large mixed salad, which I think cost about £8. I had that and a lemonade. End of the meal: 'oh, we owe £35 each'. To my shame, I said nothing and handed over the whole extortionate lot! I was surprised that no one else spoke up, though - there had been a slight palaver over me ordering so they all knew that I was just having a mixed salad as my lunch while they tucked into steak and chips. So, OP, let's both promise ourselves that we'll be braver and less ripped off next time?!

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