Been with BF for just under a year.
Things have been rocky for 85% of the relationship. He's an incredibly insecure person and I've been accused of everything under the sun since we've been together. We put that past us, he got counselling and he got A LOT better.
He has an ex who he was with for 2 years. The relationship ended around 5/6 years ago. Right before we got together, he asked her to go for a drink with him. His reason back then was so he could get closure basically. After that, while we were together, they texted each other a few times. Both of them initiating the convo. As she popped up semi-frequently I got a bit miffed and said Look, not really comfortable with it. Would you mind not getting in touch with her again for a while?
He then sent me screenshots showing me their "innocent" convo. All looked OK.
Fast forward to a few days ago, she pops up again. He asked me if he should reply or not. I said you know how I feel, given you only caught up with her a few months ago why the need again now? They also have each other on social media.
I said I think it might be a good idea just to get back to her saying Listen, we're both with different people now so maybe it's not appropriate to be in contact for now. Take care.
He said he didn't want to do that.
Today he pulled out his phone in front of me and gets me to read the messages to her so I can see for myself that nothing's going on. Except that he must have forgotten that he'd sent her a message asking if she fancies meeting up with him.
I'm quite angry at the secrecy, because when he sent me the screenshots previously, he had purposely cut off his message asking to meet up.
Red flag or am I being precious? Please be gentle. Feeling a bit
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lifeisjustadream · 23/08/2016 22:17
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