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Fishing or Serious?

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tess1pink Tue 23-Aug-16 21:39:51

I have been seeing a guy for a year now. Every weekend. Have been on some wonderful long weekends away. France recently and London no expense spared. Also share quiet nights at his. He's very loving and texts me most days we're not together. We do quite a lot together. Never had the 'relationship' talk. I know he has been hurt very badly in the past. My question is though since June he has been jokingly mentioning marriage...when talking about a friend's wedding....he'll say where should we have our wedding, what will you wear. In France...walking pass jewellers this is where we will buy our wedding rings....London this weekend ....the told a friend on the phone in front of me we were in London to get engaged. I smiled and have never questioned him as he always says it jokingly and we skip to another subject. Sometimes I feel he really does want to get engaged or his he totally joking or his he fishing to find out my feelings. I just feel that this weekend I missed an opportunity to take the matter further. Shall I bring the subject up or treat it has a only a joke?

BroomhildaVonShaft Tue 23-Aug-16 21:42:10

Ask him! You're not a passive princess who has to wait to be asked about a major life decision. Talk to him.

FreeFromHarm Tue 23-Aug-16 21:56:44

Have you not posted a similar post before ? Very familiar

Cabrinha Tue 23-Aug-16 22:57:33

What do you want?
That's pretty quick to be talking about engagements.

If he

Cabrinha Tue 23-Aug-16 23:00:19

If he is sounding you out because he's serious, then just talk to him about it.

If he's a future faking wanker who is stringing you along, talk to him about it.

I don't know why you haven't said "hey you, what's with the constant wedding chat? I've only known you 5 minutes, enough with it already. If you want to propose, do it, and I'll consider my position. Otherwise: STFU"

SandyY2K Tue 23-Aug-16 23:18:44

I think the next time he mentions it I'd say, before you start suggesting the venue or telling your friends, font youmthinkmyoud better ask me.

I had a BF who would speak about when we get married and stuff, but I was just 19/20, so I knew he wasn't serious.

TheNaze73 Tue 23-Aug-16 23:42:13

Just bloody ask him

pasic Wed 24-Aug-16 00:23:45

Your past threads are very relevant here, two months ago he was on POF.

He's messing with your head.

Cabrinha Wed 24-Aug-16 08:27:38

He's been on POF?
Dump the arsehole.
You're being played.
The thick girlfriend who thinks that no expense spared treats and hollow fake shit about marriage will keep her happy whilst he cheats.

Wishimaywishimight Wed 24-Aug-16 13:21:46

I don't think a year is too quick at all. I was engaged after 14 months but we'd been talking about marriage from about 8 months in. Will be married 11 years next month.

Cabrinha Wed 24-Aug-16 16:51:51

I didn't say it was too quick, I said it was pretty quick.
Which it is.
I was engaged before 4 months, and I'm perfectly happy to say that was pretty quick. It's a fact, not an insult.
It's also a fact that you've less chance of knowing the person properly - and it is probably a higher risk decision.
No axe to grind - I'm happy for people to tell me my engagement was bloody quick!
I think OP (and I) need to keep that in mind.

In OP's case, he's been on POF so it's all bollocks anyway.

cantshakeitoff Wed 24-Aug-16 16:55:27

Sounds like my man! He was dropping massive hints about marriage during a recent holiday.

Just before I found out about him sexting other women and actively seeking them out on fab swingers!

LTB

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