First up I have to openly state I checked his texts. He closes things down quickly on the computer if he hears me coming which always makes me wonder so I checked on Friday. We have a chequered history for this. He has read my emails and messages in the past and got very angry if he thought i had communicated with men. Even long standing friends came under his suspicion. Anyway, there is an email exchange on the shared computer. Nothing I would ever have been overly bothered about if I didn't have this massive resentment for the years of invading my privacy and accusing me of cheating (when i absolutely have not, not in word nor deed). So I don't know if it's my anger making more out of it or if something is amiss. It's clearly someone he knows from the past (not sure how but not met up for many years) and they're arranging to meet for coffee. These emails start from a point where it's obvious previous conversations have taken place but been deleted or conducted by some other medium not text. She is quite flirty and ends with kisses (that's not a bother, some people do) and he is relatively matter of fact. So far so mundane. BUT he has kept this a secret and last night after we'd been away for the weekend he replied to her text from the previous day at 4am. All texts are deleted off his phone (I checked this evening), but he's not that tech savvy so don't think he realises they are on the computer. I am really pissed off that after the stuff he put me through with his constant snooping and allegations he would do this. Is there a chance this is innocent? Ps partner not husband but live together.
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