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I'm pregnant and he's confiding in ex....

(7 Posts)
Shrekkles Sat 20-Aug-16 08:32:04

DP separated from his ex 3 years ago. They have a child together.

They had a lot of problems in their relationship, she was violent and the police were involved.

We've been together for 2 years and are expecting a child. We've bickered a fair bit over the last month.

She has started texting him with kisses on the end of messages and asking how he is etc... He's had (very personal) health problems recently and he's been discussing these with her.

We had a massive row last Wednesday and he called her and spent an hour taking to her....

I do believe she is still in love with him. He doesn't know I know the password to his phone. I would like to add I don't make a habit of 'snooping' but I was suspicious after he spend an hour at her house a few months ago.

Shrekkles Sat 20-Aug-16 09:18:44

Anyone?

Hissy Sat 20-Aug-16 09:23:55

That's unacceptable- on every level. Does he get it when you ask him about this? That his ex flirting with him is out of order.

LemonSqueezy0 Sat 20-Aug-16 10:42:37

He sounds very disrespectful of your relationship and doesn't seem concerned with protecting your relationship at all. Are the reasons for his relationship breakdown confirmed independently or do you have just his word for it? Seems like their relationship isn't over.. Not saying they are having sex (they might be) but they are still close.. What does he say when you ask him?

pallasathena Sat 20-Aug-16 10:43:39

Tell him to bugger off to her if that's what he wants and refuse, just refuse to do the pick me dance.
You must put yourself and your pregnancy first. If he's running away to his ex when the going gets tough, then you've a man-child on your hands. Is that what you want long term?

magoria Sat 20-Aug-16 11:45:50

How old is their DC? This woman is going to be in your life forever. Her child is going to be your child's sibling.

An hour at her house if they have a shared DC is nothing.

Hours sharing personal stuff when you haven't been getting on is different and wrong.

You need to be preparing to be a single mother.

Tell him it is over and to go. If he goes running back to her you have your answer.

Better now than when you are a knackered emotional mess after the baby is born.

LesisMiserable Mon 22-Aug-16 00:38:09

He's playing both of you.

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