So, as the title states...my boyfriend is cheating or about too?? How do I know this? I know his Facebook password and check his Facebook every now and then. I know that this is wrong to do. But if I hadn't done it... I would have never known about this.
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years! We used to have such an amazing bond together. We tell each other everything and anything. Were literally bestfriends!! Sex was more often, almost every day, texting non-stop.. now a few texts throughout the day.
We have a beautiful little boy together and I am currently pregnant again..
The girl he has been chatting with on Facebook has the same name as me, same exact spelling and everything. Which is very odd to me. Once I seen what was going in when he came home from work I did not confront him and tell him what I saw. But I talked about things he said about me and I apologized and said I would work on these things and things he does and says that upsets/bothers me as well. He also apologized to me. Everything should be better after our little talk right? No.
He does not talk to this girl, who is also has a boyfriend of 4 years.. when I am in the same room with him. He does it sneaky when I am not around. For example, at work, when he is pretending to be sleeping and I'm in the living room with our son taking care of him!, when he is outside cutting the grass but hiding in the shed Facebooking her... He talks bad about me to her and lies about us.
When he speaks to me, we are apparently in a great relationship with no problems and a family he loves. But to her he acts like we arent happy with a million and one problems. But he says he bought a house...true He says I then eventually moved up acouple months after...not true We lived together for almost 2 years now Im "mother of his child" not girlfriend "Stay at home mom... not the life i imagined" He told me to because day care was "too expensive" and it would be good to have him taken care of by us not strangers at day care and that my whole paycheck would go straight to daycare and i may have to add more on top so what is the point .. this is what i was told by him..
I'll give you a little bit of there conversation..
Him-are you near ** (the town he works in) Her-yeah i work there tuesdays and thursday's Him-hmmm well maybe if you're cool with it, we can get lunch i promise i dont bite Her-oh yeah! I take some classes at the college so ill be around there and everywhere alot! Him-cool, itll be like old times. But if its to much like old times i may get in trouble with you ;) Her-haha i know right. Im enjoying talking to you very much. Him-yeah me to i feel the same, we always had a good relationship Her-see me on tuesday? ;) Him- when and where? I have nothing on my sheducle so its a date ;).... i mean... lunch ;)
This is what started it
Then things escalated, like her going in the pool and how sexy he thinks she looks and that all the neighbors must be watching.
He says "youre like an addiction i can't stop now" She says mhmmmm right back at ya! They talk about how things could of been different between them.
Its him that started it being inappropriate! He said, "I'm rocking the dad bod.. can really call me daddy now;)" they keep talking and she says "i better shut my mouth" he says... "i like when its open" and she said "oh yeah i can recall many of nights" he said "many excited and amazing nights with you" Sooo wrong.
He said "id hit it, twice... or more;)" She says.. "you already have;) and can again sometime soon, never know" He says "ill have to remember that;)"
And this part of the convo is very very wrong... but i would like to add in that she was referring to there sexual past from years ago... also when i referred to there convo about her mouth open..
I wasnt even halfway off the driveway with my son to visit my mother and he messaged her!! I seen it on my cell phone from the drive way.. it was small talk then automatically got dirty again.. about how he has the house to himself and that i left.. she said good means i can talk to you more then he asks her if she can leave at night... she said she cant leave at night because she also lives with her boyfriend...
But after she couldnt do that... she says well.. what are you doing wednesday evening? See me after work...he said *(which is me) comes home that night... i cant... But maybe thursday night?? She said possibly ill let you know.
And now... they have switched over to texting, not over facebook anymore... who knows what pictures and texts they are sending..
It is so painful to know he is doing this. Especially being pregnant... how do I approach this? Tuesday he is meeting her at a local restaurant... which i am thinking about going to see what happens, i would be parking on the lot next to the restaurant they are going to meet at. I know my boyfriend and if they will kiss.. he would do it in the parking lot, not inside.
My proof is through his Facebook. If I wouldn't of looked, I wouldn't even know about all of this going on. My mind and heart is racing. I cant believe this is really happening. Any ideas on how to help this situation? Part of me wants to show him the chat between them and to speak with him about it but then the other part of me is scarded he will change his password and i wont be able to read future messages.
If he is acting like nothing is wrong and straight lying to my face how will know if what he says is sincere? I believe he truely loves me but I think maybe he misses attention from other woman like he used to have before he met me as a single man. Which confuses me because I always shut guys down that try and talk to me. It doesnt even phase me. I dont care if i get attention or not. I would never cheat or even talk to a man the way he is with her. I even deleted my facebook so he wouldnt worry or be concerned. Or ever feel that there was a threat in our relationship and get insecure or question my love for him ans loyality. My heart belongs to him but why why why is this happening :(
I really just need some advice... please be realistic. I understand creeping is wrong and I wouldnt want to do that and I shouldn't have to. Maybe that is my gut telling me to because i didnt trust him?
So my main question to everyone is...
I am going to tell him and maybe show him what I found through the screenshots on my phone I have off the chats.... but do i do this before they meet tomorrow.. or let them meet?
I will be leaving for awhile..but i cant say that i will never get back with him because i just don't know how things will work out for us.....
If i get back in the future and he didnt meet her he will just be more discreet and secretive POSSIBLY not saying ge would do it again but you dont know, no one does. But he may feel as if he missed out seeing by not meeting her....
But if he does meet her and wants to see her more... i am damned if i do, damned if i dont? Suggestions..... helpppp
I could type forever, but am ending it now. Thank you for reading and any advice or comments you may have... thanks
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