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Help! Got myself into an awkward situation

(15 Posts)
Awkward86 Mon 15-Aug-16 21:29:37

I've been texting someone online, all quite flirty but due to things going on at the moment have agreed im not ready to meet, all was fine until I sent this text

"Off to Spain tomorrow! Care to join me? 😉". Which in hindsight, I should have realised was too much like an actual real invitation. Anyway he said he'd love to and where am I going! He's a teacher so on holiday which I also should have taken into account.

The long and short of it is I'm going with a girlfriend and meant it more along the lines of "can I pack you in my bag", cue much hilarity.

Lame I know.

But now I feel totally awkward and don't know what to text back without looking like a fool. So far I've just said "Wow! I wasn't expecting that!"...which I need to follow up on and I'm totally unsure what to say. Help!

lampshady Mon 15-Aug-16 21:36:37

Just say "ha ha" or something equally bland. Or you'll be so wrecked on sangria you wouldn't recognise him. He's probably carrying in the joke then making conversation in asking where you're going.

Awkward86 Mon 15-Aug-16 21:38:08

Ah, could be. In which case I've made it more awkward by taking him seriously.blush

category12 Mon 15-Aug-16 21:38:45

He is joking. You're going tomorrow, there's no way he is seriously thinking of joining you.

category12 Mon 15-Aug-16 21:40:17

Just add "I'll have to check my luggage allowance, do you think you'll fit in my suitcase?"

HandyWoman Mon 15-Aug-16 21:40:29

how do you know his message wasn't meant in jest? this is the bolloxy thing about texting, ambiguity is the way of it. If he was seriously considering joining you and you haven't even met - well you now know to never meet him hahaha!!

How about 'just to be clear, I didn't meant it seriously, it's a girly trip, maybe another time'

Surely it's easily rectified? confused

Awkward86 Mon 15-Aug-16 21:41:43

I would have thought that but he seems quite spontaneous and has been on a couple of short trips since I've been chatting to him. On balance I think he probably is serious. Anyway I've told him where I'm going but not suggested booking tickets or indeed not doing so!

MatildaTheCat Mon 15-Aug-16 21:43:18

How about, 'Sadly I don't think Sally/friend would be too thrilled' grin

Then suggest actually meeting him on your return?

HandyWoman Mon 15-Aug-16 21:43:31

That's fine! I'm sure he'll work it out!

Awkward86 Mon 15-Aug-16 21:43:32

His exact words were "hello you! I'd love that! Whereabouts?"

meowli Mon 15-Aug-16 21:45:44

Just be matter of fact and say " going for a girly holiday with friend to xxxx! Will be in touch when I get back."

Awkward86 Mon 15-Aug-16 21:49:23

He's gone a bit quiet, I'm worried this means he's looking at tickets confused

Awkward86 Mon 15-Aug-16 21:57:26

Ok... I've awkwardly clarified that I'm going with a friend so she might be a bit surprised..!

Hissy Mon 15-Aug-16 22:06:57

Calm down!

None of this is real, so don't let this get to your head. You have not met him and don't want to.

If you're not ready to meet guys, then truly you shouldn't be flirting. It's at best a waste of time, worst it tricks you into emotional investment where there are no foundations.

Tbh, you should meet a few people you're not that fussed about, just so you learn that it's all ok and meeting a man doesn't mean you'll be sold into Slavery or trapped.

Awkward86 Mon 15-Aug-16 22:15:14

Thank you...I do into panic mode a bit. He was joking, anyway. Crisis averted smile.

I probably shouldn't text him anymore. I'll give it a few weeks and see how I feel.

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