Hi all, I've been with my partner for 5 years. when we met he was separated and has 3 kids. That wasn't a big issue for me at the time.
However Our relationship progressed, I got pregnant and he moved into my house. It's when our daughter was born that things changed. He pays half his wages to his ex and therefore has no money left for us. He doesn't contribute to the mortgage and I have to beg him to pay half the bils. I pay for everything for our child while he worries about paying his ex and the kids. I could get over that but now he is off work and living with him is a nightmare, he is constantly moody and sulky. He is dragging his heels on his divorce and we are 5 years in with a child yet he has no urgency to do anything. He gets odd if I want to meet friend.if I go for a cigarette at home without asking him to come he gets odd, if I call to my parents he arrives up and I have no space.if I go we go to bed at the same time he gets annoyed if I want to sleep while he reads. If i want to go to bed rather than watch TV with him he gets odd.
Our weekends have to revolve around meeting his other kids, which is ok as I want my daughter to have a bond with them but when I need or want to do my own thing and meet my friends this not seeing them he won't talk to me for the weekend.Also when I would prefer to have a day with my daughter alone rather than spending the day with them it ruins the weekend.
On top of that we have a child who doesn't sleep and I have to get up during the night to her while he Sleeps even though I am the one working. I do all the housework and clean up and child care while he sits surfing the net. If I ask him to help out he gets annoyed like a teenager. Maybe I am being unreasonable as he does occasionally get his act together and help out but then the novelty of that wears off.
As a result I have been diagnosed with a stress ulcer, have lost weight and I just can't handle the lack of emotional, physical, financial support.
I need advice on how i can approach the subject of him leaving. We discussed it before as I have given him ultimatums which never work. When I asked him to leave he threatens me and says I will have to call the guards to get him to go. I just don't know what to do anymore
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LucyZa · 11/08/2016 08:10
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