i joined this site 3 yrs ago.With ill parents ,dcs taking exams and a bad tempered dh and a bullying boss i didnt know where to turn,
My dm and df are stable (still terminal cancer), Dcs have left school and have jobs.
I have a new fulltime job...more hours equals more money and confidence now im respected not bullied.
I even have a proper bed now dh has one downstairs.Im not sure if he still snores as i work shifts so hardly ever see him and i work all weekends too.
I feel like a different person and even put on some weight.
Dh knows i can only see him if i book hols.I have booked my 50 th birthday weekend off in 2 months to go away.
He agreed the place.somewhere we went 20 yrs ago.
This eve he was cagey and vague about it,Turns out his newish hobby may take him away around then!! I am hurt he would put his mates first in this instance,DD overheard and said he was being unreasonable too,we never had the money or time to do much the last 29 yrs.I feel like im being needy.
Things seemed better having separate days off and the odd quality trip away.
Now im wondering whether the lack of affection and intimacy and general discussions if its time to separate formally,While i still have time to enjoy some life.the dcs think we should and dd is moving out soon,They can see how dh totally blanks me out.This yr is 30 since we met.
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whatisforteamum · 10/08/2016 22:02
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