Name changed. If anyone else were in my situation, I would tell them LTB but can't do it to myself.
Went to bed early due to headache but couldn't sleep so on MN. Went back through to living room and found DP sitting up looking at porn. He knows I hate it, I know many men and women are ok with it but I never have been and he has promised to stop but anyway for once it's not really the point.
He has gone cold on me for the last few months. Never initiating sex, extremely short tempered and most of all stopped non sexual physical affection - hugs and kisses etc. So I knew he was unhappy as am I but I tried and tried to get it out in the open but he wouldn't.
So I used this incident as a catalyst for a conversation and he basically says is not happy, not sure if wants to carry on etc. Doesn't want to make a decision right now. When he is at his best, he can be a good partner; we were childhood sweethearts etc. But he has always been poor at communicating and emotionally abusive in terms of having a go at me/stonewalling over nothing and once was physically abusive. He has already shown a short temper with DD who is 2 so I know I should leave.
I just worry that we should make the best of it for her sake. I am worried about finding a future partner who I would trust around DD (I was sexually abused as a child) and so may end up single until she's 18!
I work full time but we juggle pick ups and drop offs between us as my job is completely inflexible so am worried about losing my job if I have no back up and thus being unable to support DD.
Anyone up to hand hold and also tell me first steps? Thanks if you've made it this far.
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