How do I communicate with dh to stop trying to wake me up for sex

[EveOnline2016]

I am not well atm. On antibiotics for a nasty infection as well as zapain for the pain of said infection.

Dh is working nights and gets in around 6:20 am and comes to bed while I'm sleeping and starts fondling and asking for sex.

It's getting on my nerves as finally after 10 years ds is sleeping longer and it means I can.

Wtf is he playing at.

[Lweji]

You could punch him accidently.
Or ban him from the bedroom.
Or get divorce papers.

[Lweji]

Accidentally, even.

Or keep waking him up during the day when he's asleep.

[stolemyusername]

If it was me, he'd be told in no uncertain terms that I was sleeping and if he ever woke me again for sex then he'd get a quick knee to the bollocks!

[JinkxMonsoon]

"Stop waking me up at 6am and asking for sex. I'm ill. If I ever want you to wake me up at 6am for sex, I'll let you know. Otherwise assume that I'll never feel sexy after you wake me up at that time".

If he sulks, tell him to grow up.

[WorzelsCornyBrows]

Say "oi, stop waking me up for sex".

Seriously though, some people would like that, others wouldn't, you need to tell him you don't want him to do it. This is only a problem if he doesn't respect your wishes.

[ElspethFlashman]

What do you currently do and how does he react?

[Lweji]

Why do people assume the OP hasn't told him to stop?

[EveOnline2016]

I have told him to stop.

I know currently finding time to have sex is an issue. DC off school and are awake longer ect.

But for god sake leave me sleep.

[DonkeysDontRideBicycles]

Did he not realise when you got medication it wasn't an instant miracle cure?

[NickiFury]

He'd get an elbow in the larynx if this were happening to me.

[PeppermintPasty]

Haha I see Lweji has got there first. I'm favouring punching too, whilst simultaneously not in any way condoning violence too, natch.

[DropYourSword]

Fork to the forehead.

[ChaChaChaCh4nges]

Assuming he has a basic grasp of at least one language in common with the OP then clearly it's not a communication issue. It's him being an entitled fuckwit who thinks his wants are more important than her needs.

[ayeokthen]

Just tell him that you're tired, not feeling great and don't want to be woken up for sex. If he persists, tell him to fuck off or he'll not get any for the next 10 years.

[Lweji]

Ask him if he feels like explaining sexual assault to the police.

[EveOnline2016]

Thank you.

I swear to god I'm ready to divorce him if this continues.

[Ifailed]

Wake him up at 10am with a mop & bucket, hoover, toilet cleaner, load of dirty washing and a hot iron and tell him there's a load of housework you want him to do, now.

[LumpySpacedPrincess]

How did he respond when you asked him to stop, did he continue to pester you?

[microferret]

As somebody else suggested, wake him up when he's in the middle of a daytime sleep and see how he likes it.

Then sit down and schedule a time for shagging that works for both, not just one, of you.

[trafalgargal]

My OH is on nights this week 6.30 am this morning "in your dreams ....." Rolled over and went back to sleep. No issue , why would there be?

[OreosAreTasty]

You've asked him to stop.
he hasn't... this is on par with rape.
LTB.

[OreosAreTasty]

and yes, disrespecting my boundaries and wishes in this way WOULD make me LTB, before anyone says i'm being extreme and not really thinking.
DH would be out on his arse after just one time of doing it after i've told him not to