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I have lots of friends but find it difficult to form romantic relationships. Anyone else?

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FiveFullFathoms Thu 04-Aug-16 19:57:16

Just pondering really. I find it easy to make friends and keep them around. I have a wide circle of friends, including half a dozen very close friends. I'm good at small talk, reasonably attractive and people generally like me.

So why do I have such problems forming romantic relationships? Thinking logically, the 'skill set' I use to attract and keep friends should be reasonably transferable to romantic and sexual relationships - but it doesn't seem to be! I guess it's partly due to the fact that I'm more picky about people I want to sleep with vs people I want to have a pint with but even so.... Just musing out loud really. Is anyone else like this?

katemiddletonsnudeheels Thu 04-Aug-16 19:58:32

Yes, me, although I've sort of-kind of met someone now who is a friend already!

FiveFullFathoms Thu 04-Aug-16 20:17:27

Sadly my friends are either coupled up or very firmly in the platonic camp. Glad it's worked out for you, though!

whirlygirly Thu 04-Aug-16 22:11:09

This resonates with me. Lots of friends, great relationships at work etc. It doesn't translate to romantic relationships though. I'm always somehow disappointed. Watching with interest.

katemiddletonsnudeheels Thu 04-Aug-16 22:33:51

It hasn't yet five - praying it does though smile

I got confidence when I listed some of the things my friends might say about me? Could you make a list here?

For me, confidence is linked to my appearance. I'm not ugly but I feel I am very plain. I have "inner beauty"! grin

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