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Miss being in a relationship, yet not ready to date...?

(9 Posts)
clashofclanswidow Tue 02-Aug-16 18:40:27

Just that really...how do you all deal with this feeling?

FreeFromHarm Tue 02-Aug-16 19:06:45

Hi, everyone is different, you will know when you are ready, I have been on my own nearly two years now and I do not feel ready....also depends on the circumstances also .
Were you married or was it a ltr ?

clashofclanswidow Tue 02-Aug-16 19:25:45

LTR, nasty break up, 7 months since, still working on improving myself.

Guess I miss all the good things about being with someone though - frustrating but definitely not ready to commit.

NewStartNow Tue 02-Aug-16 19:28:25

Me too. Six months on from a nasty break up and can't even think about dating. Just trying to put it to the back of my mind and keep busy.

StartledByHisFurryShorts Tue 02-Aug-16 19:49:43

If you're not ready to commit, do you think you would be up for a more casual friends with benefits arrangement? I know they're not for everyone.

clashofclanswidow Tue 02-Aug-16 20:03:37

I did contemplate that being the solution but I still have confidence issues and a small baby that I'm not ready to leave yet, so still awkward for me.

I keep focusing on the hope I will find a wonderful partner in the future, whilst also remembering I shouldn't need someone to make me happy but some days it's not enough to stop the overthinking.

StartledByHisFurryShorts Tue 02-Aug-16 20:41:07

I reckon platonic friendships (and regular wanking smile ) would be the way to go until you're in the right headspace to look for a new relationship, then.

Looking after a small baby when you're single is hard, isn't it? I remember feeling like the only person without a partner when I was in that position.

clashofclanswidow Tue 02-Aug-16 21:43:37

Maybe you're right. I think I'm possibly just looking for someone to regularly cuddle up to on an evening and say "well done for keeping them both alive for another day" haha. Adult conversations etc. Oh well, one day ey? =)

Hurtandconfused2016 Tue 02-Aug-16 22:02:56

Clash I'm completely the same missing the whole thing even things like making dinner for them etc!
But the thought of dating with the 2 little ones terrify me I keep thinking who would want me and my baggage

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