Long running history with MIL. Ive read all of the books, tried all of the strategies to get DH on side, but I'm still being punished by DH for not accepting MIL'S intrusive, strange and disturbing behaviour.
It's not direct, obvious punishment either. He just goes quiet on me for a week, there's no sex, no arguments, no affection, little conversation, just the quiet treatment. It lasted 4 weeks quite recently after MIL disrespected me infront of the whole family at a family dinner and blanked me through the meal even after my attempts to speak to her. Everyone noticed. We left early. DH was shocked at her behaviour, but he still punished me with the silent treatment for saying I am now refusing to be in her company.
This week it's because she's sent flowers out of the blue and Ive told DH I don't want to make up with her because I know it's all part of her game playing mentally to get everyone else on side. I've written her a polite letter explaining how she makes me feel, but DH is reluctant for me to send it and have my say too.
Getting really tired of it all now.
Other than this, DH is a kind man and a good father. At what point though does it become too much and at what point do you give in and walk away? I'd appreciate some stories, good or bad please.
Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody
Relationships
Stories from people who eventually left DH because of MIL?
Aranpoo · 01/08/2016 21:09
Don’t want to miss threads like this?
Weekly
Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!
Log in to update your newsletter preferences.
You've subscribed!
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.