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Is it possible to get the feeling back?

(5 Posts)
IndieTara Sun 31-Jul-16 17:07:04

Pretty new to this so hopefully I wont make any MN etiquette mistakes.
DP and I have been together 2.5 years and engaged for the last 8 mths. He really loves me and my DD and would do anything for us.
I am currently feeling very shallow and guilty that the fact he is lovely doesnt seem to be enough.
I am squeamish about certain things and unfortunately some of the things he does really gross me out. Its something we have spoken about more than once in the past but nothing really changes. We are currently abroad on our first holiday together at a relatives house ( with them ) and things have been difficult because of his personal habits. I can feel any desire I had for him draining away, but arent I just supposed to accept who he is?

Missgraeme Sun 31-Jul-16 20:49:28

If the gross things are personal hygiene then yanbu to expect things to change. Spell it out exactly how u want things to be. Tell him u aren't settling for less.

Kr1stina Sun 31-Jul-16 21:08:42

Is he the father of your DD?

You say how much he loves y but not how much you love him ? How do you feel ? Woudl everything be OK if he changed this personal habit ?

FreeFromHarm Sun 31-Jul-16 21:37:05

Do you live with him Tara ?

MephistoMarley Sun 31-Jul-16 21:39:13

If his personal habits are gross, like not showering or shitting with the door open then no, you aren't supposed to just accept it and of course you won't fancy him

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