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Experiences of paying for match.com?

(28 Posts)
honeyJD Sun 31-Jul-16 11:11:33

I've tried pof and tinder to no avail.. Tinder no one replies or just wants sex and pof seems to be all weirdos.
I joined match a few weeks ago, the free version, and the men on there seemed a lot more appealing but with the free version you can't reply to messages or see who "liked" your profile.
If you pay upfront for 6 months it's £60 odd, £10 a month doesn't seem TOO bad...
How have others found it for partner-meeting?

SystemAticcally Sun 31-Jul-16 17:02:41

Their interest is against you interest.

Ideally for you, you'd try a month for free meet the person of your life and then cut the cord with the site. However, for them the longer you stay the more you'll pay so you can see how your interests are in direct conflict with that of the site.

Furthermore, the older you are the less men there are (I assume you are a woman). Older men are there mostly to meet younger women, so you will have very little to chose from.

Here is the data from ok cupid.

i.imgur.com/Ijgzwsk.png

So in short, you're better off joining a club with a hobby you like and hope to find someone you like.

moomin11 Sun 31-Jul-16 17:05:49

I met my DP on there nearly 5 years ago, so pretty good! I signed up for 6 months but met him in the first month. They also automatically renewed my membership after that for another 6 months so watch out for that.

SystemAticcally Sun 31-Jul-16 17:15:05

Yes I forgot to add that cancelling the standing order on your card is particularly difficult.

Odds are heavily stacked against you on all levels.

happyandsingle Sun 31-Jul-16 17:23:01

Your in a joyful mood system. You dont even know how old op is?

SystemAticcally Sun 31-Jul-16 17:26:45

Assuming you were referring to my post, that's why I included the chart i.imgur.com/Ijgzwsk.png.

This way you can tell what age group each gender is looking for.

Starting at 22 years old, men are interested, on average, at women who are around 20 or 21. So a 30+ woman looking for a man in her age bracket will keep on chasing men who are interested in women 10 years younger.

becciandbump Sun 31-Jul-16 17:41:23

I met my now husband on match he was worth every single penny!!!

Colourmylife1 Sun 31-Jul-16 17:46:54

Perhaps it depends on your demographic and location. I met some nice men on Match and have now been in relationship for 9 months. 3 other friends are getting married to people they met on Match. We're all early 50s.

I agree it's hard to close your account and stop payments though.

moomin11 Sun 31-Jul-16 18:30:06

A bit of a sweeping generalisation there...none of the guys I met were looking for a 20 year old.

honeyJD Sun 31-Jul-16 19:30:56

I've just turned 30. Already had two relationships with age gaps of 11 years and 20 years and definitely not after that again...!

CiaoVerona Sun 31-Jul-16 19:36:33

I think its crap, its full of fake profiles and scammers, Id also take into account, POF/Match & OK Cupid are all owned by the same parent company, in my experience you'll find the same people across the various sites. The only site I found worth paying for was Soulmates if you're in London its worth a go other wise not so much.

Overthinker2016 Sun 31-Jul-16 19:40:09

I know of one friend who is married with a baby after meeting her husband on Match.

And have another why is living with someone with a baby.

So quite a good success rate within my group of pals!

SystemAticcally Sun 31-Jul-16 23:33:01

How many successes for how many failures?

That's the statistic that these sites wont give you. They only features successes.

I would hope that among millions of people paying x amount per months they'd have a few hits.

PaintedDrivesAndPolishedGrass Sun 31-Jul-16 23:40:15

I met DP on Match on my first day, I payed for 3 months upfront. I was 45 he was 44. Job well done I'd say😃

Overthinker2016 Sun 31-Jul-16 23:43:24

System - yeah we get that you think they are a waste of money!

It's is more likely to be successful than just doing nothing though.

But you shelf do it along side just generally expanding social circle

LellyMcKelly Mon 01-Aug-16 02:13:26

I joined last year aged 46. Went on loads of dates, including 6 in 5 days at one point, which was exhausting. Then about a month in I met DP and we've been together for 13 months now. He's lovely, and well worth £60 of anyone's money smile

FenellaMaxwell Mon 01-Aug-16 03:18:19

Joined it when I was 28. Had lots of dates with very nice men, and after 4 weeks, met my now DH and our first baby is due in 6 months. grin Go for it! You can just do it for a month to see if you like it and get a discount by using the code they give on the tube posters?

I found the paid dating sites much better than free ones like PoF - if men have taken the time to fill out the lengthy profile and pay to be on there it's a lot less likely they are just after a quick, no strings shag!

AprilSkies44 Mon 01-Aug-16 03:41:58

i found it easy to join and easy to delete profile. it was a massive ego boost for me....i got hundreds of replies in days - but i wasnt ready for dating so deleted my profile. id just come out of a 25 year relationship. im 44.
there is a phone number so pretty easy to get shut of profile when wanted.

if i were ever going to use a dating site again id use match. good luck. but be careful.!

Expatmomma Mon 01-Aug-16 03:56:00

Met my truly lovely DP on match in the first month. We plan on growing old together.

That was 3.5 years ago and the best £60 I have ever spent.

fiveyeardrought Mon 01-Aug-16 11:17:48

Hi, my (male) experience of Match is as follows. I paid for three months membership and within about five weeks I had 28 women indicating me as a 'favourite'. Well I am truly mister average and did not believe that all those listed were genuine in fact I emailed about five over two months and three replied, two with very short responses. I met one woman after exchanging messages for a couple of weeks. I thought we got on well but she did not wish to continue the friendship .
Because the response to my messages was so poor I decided to cancel my membership. One thing to be careful with is when cancelling, you must do it I think three days before the actual expiry date.

Bunkai Mon 01-Aug-16 20:32:41

I've been fleeced for £89 for a further 6 months. You can't cancel online over your phone it must be on the computer. Yet on my computer it said I could not cancel my subscription. The phone lines were shut so I have no choice but to pay. Not a happy bunny.

purpleporpoise Mon 01-Aug-16 20:38:45

I met DH on match affinity which was £90 for 3 months at the time and you had to do a really long personality questionnaire. I figured any bloke willing to pay £90 was serious and solvent. DH was my first date off there and 4 years later we're now married with a baby

BossWitch Mon 01-Aug-16 20:41:58

I met dh on match. I know a couple of other couples who met on match. Never had an issue with cancelling, and nor did they as far as I know. This was about 7 years ago though, maybe they've made it more difficult since then? I would definitely recommend it. I have a husband and a baby as a result!

Not sure about what pp said about mean wanting women ten years younger - none of my male friends have settled down with anyone significantly younger than them. And I'm actually older than dh, so it clearly didn't matter to him!

suspiciousofgoldfish Mon 01-Aug-16 20:46:27

I met DH after being on match for 1 month. No problem cancelling. I did it over the phone (this was four years ago mind).

I have three good friends who met their husbands on match, that's why I tried it.

Joined at 30.

We all might be divorced at 40 grin but hey ho...

CherryPicking Mon 01-Aug-16 21:00:40

I think that chart's a bit odd. Men never, ever prefer women over 24? I think most men are like most women - they want to be with someone of a similar age, background, interests. And what about gay men and women?

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