I have a friend who I don't get to see often due to work and distance. We last met up in June and she said she wanted us to meet up more often as too much time had passed since we last met up. This was mainly due to her as she has work friends that she tends to prioritise over me and she is also married, which I'm not. So we arranged to go out for dinner and drinks one Saturday in August. She was adamant that we should regularly book in dates to see each other so that we don't lose touch.
She texted last week to ask if I was still able to make the Saturday night out in August. I replied that I was. I have actually juggled other plans around this date, turned down plans with other friends and booked my holiday around it, as I don't see her often and I wanted to keep the commitment.
Today I got a text from her, asking to meet up on the Friday night instead. No reason, just 'that evening is best for me.' I replied that I couldn't do that date, as I'm away until the Saturday morning. She then said that she has plans for that day but can let me know if she's free in the evening.
I'm confused about why she isn't free and now has to 'let me know' as this date has been arranged for weeks. I think perhaps she now has a better offer from her husband/work friends and I've been relegated to bottom of her priorities. I replied that I'd rather just leave it if she doesn't know what she's doing but she wants to let me know in a few days.
Should I be honest and say I'm not very happy with the fact that she's now busy, despite making plans with me ages ago? It feels quite disrespectful that I've turned down other plans for that date while she is apparently acting like she wasn't bothered in the first place. It's not that hard to keep one evening free, especially when it's booked weeks in advance. This isn't the first time she's done something like this either.
Would you say something or just keep quiet to avoid a confrontation?
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bonjournono · 30/07/2016 17:30
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