I went away camping at a festival with a friend... someone I don't see very often as we live far away. I was looking forward to meeting up with her, it'd been a while. I've known her about a year. We've been good friends during that time, despite the fact that we don't live nearby so only catch up every few months or so.
However. I saw a different side to her this time. She was very off with me from the start. Didn't show any interest in me or my family. Made friends with some other people and went off with them. Agreed she'd meet me in my tent one evening, once she'd settled her daughter to sleep, left me waiting ages, then i discover she's gone to the new friends tent leaving me waiting for her like an idiot. When I tried to tell her she just said she'd forgot (unlikely, I'd spoken to her half an hour ago when she said to wait up) and that I was being ridiculous.
I lent her some makeup - quite expensive makeup not that that should make a difference. The next day she couldn't find it. Then I did get a bit stroppy because she was saying I should go and look for it - when she was the one who'd borrowed it. She then said I was upsetting her.. I said are you the only one who can get upset then? Cue big shouting match, world war three, her husband shouting at me, me running off in floods of tears. And this is supposed to be a happy event where you have fun with your friends,
Later her husband found me and said 'are we all alright now?' I said 'yeah but we need a chat' Well the chat was her then coming up to me telling me not to shout at her and how I'd had a dose of her.
I thought it would be a two way chat to discuss what happened and both clear the air, say sorry or whatever. But she's not interested in how I feel. Since then we were civil to each other but there was definitely an atmosphere.
I'm so angry at her now, and her husband. I don't usually shout with friends, family ocasionally but I expect to work things out with friends without shouting.
We're supposed to be going to stay with them in a few weeks time and I really don't know if i want to now.
I used to have poor self esteem and let people treat me like shit and now I've gone the other way it seems, any hint of being treated badly and I just want to run away.
I'm all for chatting things through and resolving them but how can you even do that if the other person can't be in the wrong.
I think I should dump this friend, we have got on well in the past but I can't let this go. I just feel like she's not the person I thought she was and it's sad, but I'm not going to pretend it didn't happen.
What would you do?
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Should I let go of this friend? Let me down big time.
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maggiethemagpie · 28/07/2016 11:21
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