After over seven years of being separated, currently divorcing, I still feel sick and fearful when a message or call from him comes through. He drinks a great deal and is very unpredictable. He doesn't see the kids to a set schedule and this is for the best as I truly believe they would not be safe with him for overnights or weekends due to his drinking. There's no legal contact agreement in place. He'd never keep to it anyway.
I pretend to be amicable with him, I answer "how are you?" Blah blah blah messages in a pleasant fashion etc. However I feel sick and anxious for days after he has contacted me. He was so very abusive and unpredictable that I had a complete mental break down that lasted 8 months and was diagnosed with PTSD after I finally managed to end our marriage. He's still unpredictable for example he will call out of the blue asking to take the kids out of the country on holiday right at the last minute and when I say no citing school or previous arrangements he will send reams of abusive and argumentative messages. The only thing I will say is he never bears a grudge - his attention span is too short for that.
My children both have autism and are functioning emotionally and cognitively at least two - three years behind their peers. My son's self care skills are near non existent even though he is in his early teens.
I need practical ideas on how to deal with this man and protect my children. Periodically I become moderately depressed and full of anxiety and I am sure it is the constant low level stress I am living under.
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NickiFury · 27/07/2016 18:19
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