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Tell me it will be OK :-(

(10 Posts)
summersunshineaddict Wed 27-Jul-16 10:25:10

29 years old and just about to become single (got another thread about why)

I want children so badly, please tell me it will be OK and I won't end up single and alone forever

StillDrSethHazlittMD Wed 27-Jul-16 10:30:49

None of us can guarantee that you won't end up single and alone forever. But we can probably say you stand a perfectly good chance of meeting someone else. You are ONLY 29.

And if you want children so badly, you do know you don't have to be in a relationship these days? You could have a sperm donor if you genuinely want them so badly.

ThinkPinkStink Wed 27-Jul-16 10:34:48

I was single at 30 - I remember my 30th birthday feeling pretty grim (on one hand I had a nice life, nice job, nice flat...on the other I was terrified that I'd miss my 'window of opportunity' for marriage and kids).

Now I'm 36 and:

I met my husband at 31
We got married at 35
I got pregnant at 36 (currently 30 weeks)

I'm not promising you this will happen - but do know that there is a VERY good chance that you'll find someone you want to be with, if you look at it statistically I think it's significantly more likely that you'll end up with someone, than alone.

And if, on the off chance, it doesn't happen - you can have kids, via insemination, fostering, adopting... if you want kids (and on the basis there's no reason you shouldn't be allowed to) - there will be a way. xx

TheNaze73 Wed 27-Jul-16 10:35:56

You're asking the impossible there. The 3 certainties in life are, you'll pay tax, you'll die & Cliff Richard will bang out a Christmas song.... wink

However, you're only 29, which is still youngish. You have time on your side....

Your only decision here is, do you chase the old man of China, or do you let him chase you??

summersunshineaddict Wed 27-Jul-16 10:40:20

Just not feeling very young at the moment and really down about everything

StillDrSethHazlittMD Wed 27-Jul-16 10:42:16

Summer I'm 42 and have been single 6 years, not been on a date in 5. Come back then and have a serious wallow. For now, mope for a while at the loss of whatever relationship you have now but you really don't need to have those sorts of fears for many, many years to come.

hellsbellsmelons Wed 27-Jul-16 10:54:39

My friend is single and had a baby by sperm donor at age 39.
She's loving it.
I was in a relationship but it fell apart (cheating scumbag) when I was 40!!!
I met a lovely guy and in my late 40's I'm loving life.
Seriously. You are very young.
You have a tonne of time.
Take your time.
Don't rush into anything and just be you for a while.
You'll get there.

summersunshineaddict Wed 27-Jul-16 11:00:38

I know I am being mopey, feel like I am grieving for the life I expected to happen

hellsbellsmelons Wed 27-Jul-16 11:20:17

You do have to go through the grieving process.
You've had a loss. It works in a very similar way.
Keep busy.
Go out with friends.
Join a club
Start a new hobby

summersunshineaddict Wed 27-Jul-16 11:48:59

Yes, I have been trying to keep busy to distract myself

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