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To think this is rude?

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MamaSaysItsAHardKnockLife · 26/07/2016 17:48

Asked out on a date and trying to arrange when, we both have kids and it's a mission. We met on OD but are old friends from school, it's all been a bit stop-start but technically this would be our first official date. He was (I thought) genuinely interested?!

I suggested Monday just gone this weekend; he misunderstood and thought I was talking about the week ahead, which he can't do as his weekend with the dc.

No problem said I - let's do Monday as in tomorrow (this was on Sunday afternoon); I do know it's short notice though so of course no problem if not.

His reply, "Tomorrow's Monday?"

This is rude isn't it!! I have just left it. Bloody men.

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pegomassive1 · 26/07/2016 17:52

I don't think that's rude actually! There have been many a thread on "this day" "that day" "next day" etc and it does divide opinion...
When he said "tomorrow's Monday" did you reply and say yes? It does look to me like he was trying to confirm?

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ChunkyMonkey4321 · 26/07/2016 17:55

I have no idea why you think that's rude

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FuzzyOwl · 26/07/2016 17:56

How is that rude?

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MajesticSeaFlapFlap · 26/07/2016 17:56

Not rude, he just wanted to be sure

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DrMorbius · 26/07/2016 17:57

I think he has dodged a bullet.

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MamaSaysItsAHardKnockLife · 26/07/2016 17:58

He asked me whether tomorrow was Monday, couldn't he just look at a calendar?!

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blueskyinmarch · 26/07/2016 17:59

So he was checking that you wanted to meet tomorrow Monday as in the next day rather than next Monday and you think he was rude? He was just clarifying the date.

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MamaSaysItsAHardKnockLife · 26/07/2016 17:59

I don't think I'm a bullet Confused

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ChunkyMonkey4321 · 26/07/2016 17:59

Or maybe he meant 'how fast has the weekend gone'

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coolaschmoola · 26/07/2016 17:59

You are making an issue where there is none.

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MamaSaysItsAHardKnockLife · 26/07/2016 17:59

No he wasn't clarifying, I already said.

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someonescj · 26/07/2016 18:00

Or maybe he asked as in the Monday which is occurring tomorrow? Don't see how that's rude at all.

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FuzzyOwl · 26/07/2016 18:01

I can see why your potential dating has been stop start!

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PonchosLament · 26/07/2016 18:04

I'd have assumed he was just double checking.

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MistressChalk · 26/07/2016 18:04

He clearly meant 'the Monday that will be tomorrow?' so I don't see how that's rude at all. It's easy to mistake things over text though.

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PonchosLament · 26/07/2016 18:07

I think the apostrophe denoted possession.

You think it denoted a contraction.

As in, I think it was a clarification of the Monday that is tomorrow and you have read it as a sarcastic "tomorrow is Monday".

I think I am right because your interpretation is a statement and not a question and would not, therefore, necessitate a question mark.

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HappyJanuary · 26/07/2016 18:07

I don't think he was asking you if tomorrow is Monday.

He was saying 'you do mean the Monday that is happening tomorrow'. Understandable given the circumstances and previous confusion.

You're too touchy. Fancy being annoyed enough to give up a potential date and post angrily about it. Texting sometimes throws up such misunderstandings imo.

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PonchosLament · 26/07/2016 18:08

I, too, think he has dodged a bullet and avoided someone who takes offence over absolutely nothing.

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honeybunny14 · 26/07/2016 18:10

Seriously? Hmm

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PigletWasPoohsFriend · 26/07/2016 18:10

I can't see how that is rude at all.

You not replying is rude.

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Cabrinha · 26/07/2016 18:11

I don't think he was actually asking you if tomorrow was Monday, in lieu of looking on a calendar.Confused
He's just checking because there'd already been some Monday confusion.

If that were me, a link to The Cure lyrics would have been thrown in by now! Or some silly chat about also doing the Monday before the Monday after the Monday we didn't meet.

You say it's been stop start already - is it genuine, or is this you reacting to previous uselessness from him? Because it's really not rude, just on what you've said.

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Hellothereitsme · 26/07/2016 18:12

Poor fella! He uses the correct grammar and gets dumped!! He was asking you if you meant Monday tomorrow or the next Monday! He wasn't being sarcastic or trying to be funny. The apostrophe is the clue.

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Cabrinha · 26/07/2016 18:13

And as today is Tuesday, does that mean you've just blanked him over that?! Bloody hell Confused

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RaggyDoll24 · 26/07/2016 18:13

Really?! Hmm

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GirlOverboard · 26/07/2016 18:15

I think you're the one being rude TBH. Imagine if a man described you as a 'bloody woman' or got so angry he cancelled your date, just because you asked what day it was tomorrow (or tried to clarify which Monday he meant).

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