Things haven't been great in my marriage for a while. I have been pretty low for a very long time. Dd passed away 7 years ago and I was never really the same. I isolated myself and just kept myself to myself. Dh is pretty aloof and hasn't really noticed I have been depressed for a while. He's sort of left me to it. I'm at a stage where I will go to my gp to seek help. I'm really bad at communicating my feelings and this has lead to lots of problems. I have just focused on raising my ds with minimal input from my husband (he provides financially but isn't involved on any decisions or parenting). I guess I resent him for this. Anyway, his family have been quite cold with me recently. I thought it might be becUse he's been discussing our marriage with them.
I did something awful and checked his messages to a family member. Some pretty awful things have been said like "she's off her rocker", his sister thinks dh should tell his parents our problems and ALSO get my parents involved. She doesn't know why I'm so unhappy given that I have a child and a home and have been on a course (I have a PhD but gave up my career to look after ds. I went on a week course to refresh my skills so that I can go back to work - wow I should be so fucking grateful given the dh buggers off every Sunday to pursue his activities and leave ds with me). I know it was a shit thing to do by reading his messages but I feel so utterly exposed. Everyone in his family knows some of the deeply personal things i have said but nobody has come forward to offer me help. I don't know what to do. I feel they will be influencing him.
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sh77 · 23/07/2016 18:05
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