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Do I stay?

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TheMD Fri 22-Jul-16 23:41:26

I posted a while ago about my husband of just one year and his complete lack of interest in me (sexual, emotional or otherwise).

We have been like ships in the night since then, refusing to discuss the elephant in the room - silly, I know. We finally had a big chat tonight where he basically admitted he was emotionally stunted for lack of a better word and couldn't change into something I need. I've been bringing up his lack of interest in me pretty much every 6 months for the 4 years see known each other and it gets better for a couple of weeks and goes back to normal. We shouldn't have married, really.
But now I keep thinking about all the people we will hurt with the divorce and I feel sad for him because an admission like that couldn't have been easy to make. A part of me wants to try and stick it out and the other part is thinking - you're not even 30 yet, thus can't be it for the rest of your life.
I'm sure other marriages are imperfect too, right? Do I owe it to us and our families/friends to give it another shot?

TheMD Fri 22-Jul-16 23:47:09

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2631405-Please-help-on-the-brink-of-a-divorce
Previous thread, if anyone fancies a quick read.

Resilience16 Sat 23-Jul-16 02:47:53

Hi MD, well your husband has been pretty honest with you and told you he can't be the man you want him to be.
So I guess your choices are to stay and accept things aren't going to change, or decide you want deserve more and have the balls to leave.
What family and friends feel about it is irrelevant really. I would have thought that they would prefer you to be happy tho, rather than stuck in a relationship that is limping along at best.
Good luck

TheNaze73 Sat 23-Jul-16 17:26:16

I think your DH has been completely honest with you here. I think you're at a crossroads here and probably know what you've got to do

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