I'll begin by saying my mother and I have always had a fractious relationship. She's emotionally immature, passive aggressive and sometimes downright rude and abusive, I think.
She has got herself in a massive tizz because I didn't reply to ONE text last week. Being as PA as she is though, she didn't actually tell me she was cross about this when I went round with the baby last week, instead doing her life long act of not making eye contact, giving one word answers and slamming round. Having seen this for 35 years, I'm used to it. I've decided I'm not panderingto this anymore so ignored her. However, , she refused to engage with the baby at all, as in she wouldn't even look at him, never mind speak to him or hold him. Like I said, I'm used to this crap so me and my Dad just went in another room and chatted and played with baby.
The next day I get a massive text from her, saying she's sick of me and other people not replying to texts. I explained to her that I've got my hands full with a little boy who won't wait while I just text Nanna back, and pointed out that I reply to every other text she's sent, but for some reason she's taken this ONE text I forgot about very, very personally. She just will not accept my explanation at all. I've told her I'm no longer willing to waste time discussing this, and pointed out to her that her treatment of my son was unacceptable. She concedes she shouldn't have treated him like that, but there is no hint of any kind of apology. I've said to let me know when she's in the mood for a visit, but have heard nothing back.
I'm just at a loss for what else to do, really. The ball is in her court now but why the hell does she waste so much time on stupid imagined slights? I just don't understand.
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I don't know what to do about my mum
brucebogtrotter · 22/07/2016 14:31
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