Just help me think through this one - probably worrying too much!
DP is (just) pregnant and we're very excited, though obviously we know there's a lot of risk up to three months. Both sets of parents knew we were planning and now know she's had a positive test - there were reasons for this. I know many people would say we could simply not have told them, but they would probably have guessed as they see a lot of us.
DP thought her mum would be thrilled - she's always said she wanted more grandchildren. DP's mid-30s and never talked about wanting children before, so her mum was quite surprised and initially questioned us quite a bit. She still seems mostly surprised. If pushed to talk about grandchildren, she will say how she really hopes to see a lot of this one, with plenty of overnights, as she missed out on that with her first grandchild, DP's nephew. And she will talk about her views on things like weaning and so on. So that's positive.
What bothers me is, DP - who is not a worrier at all - has asked me a few times if I think her mum seems excited, and I honestly can't say she does. She's asked her mum a couple of times in my hearing, if she's happy and if she's excited. Her mum says yes, but drops the subject immediately. I realised this morning that, although we told her mum we'd had a positive test when we saw her a few days back, DP hasn't actually spoken to her dad. She said she'd ring him, but she hasn't. She was also surprised her mum hadn't mentioned anything to her sister.
I can see there could be loads of reasons - it's early, her mum may be worried about miscarriage (though there's no family history); she may just be still adjusting to the idea, etc. etc. But I'm beginning to feel worried for my DP as she's not a needy type, but clearly could do with some more overt encouragement from her mum. I think telling her so soon was partly done because she wanted that encouragement, too.
Would you say anything?
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RobinsAreTerritorialFuckers · 21/07/2016 08:05
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