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Am I being paranoid?

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user1468602338 · 20/07/2016 10:02

I visit my gran everyday get her shopping etc.
Around 8 months ago this man (around late 60s early 70s) started talking to me who lived in her building.
I'm friendly so always smile and chat back.
Lately he has been getting a bit too friendly for Me.
Everyday he is waiting at the door just walking up and down,he gets in the same lift as me even tho he needs to take the other one to get to his floor.
I said to him oh you taking this one and he said yeah il come in with you,I've been a good boy I deserve a chat with you.
This is everyday now.
He asks me to ask him how his day has been,then yesterday he said your welcome in mine for wine anytime,I awkwardly said I didn't like wine.
Then yesterday afternoon I was walking home and he was walking down the road he stopped me and gave me his "business card" and said if you ever need anything call me.
He will say oh you look great today or I've seen you again this is my reward for being good.
I don't know he makes me feel creeped out.
Just being friendly or not?

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Branleuse · 20/07/2016 10:04

being over friendly and flirty. Id be creeped out too, but I dont know what id do about it.Be very deadpan when he said creepy things.

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penisbeakerlaminateflooringetc · 20/07/2016 10:06

Eeeeek! I'd hate this but not sure what I would do other than starting to completely blank him.

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Itsnowornever01 · 20/07/2016 10:06

Very creepy, try to get a male friend or relative to visit with you a few times, that should put him off.

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user1468602338 · 20/07/2016 10:08

my aunt was looking out the window and she goes oh who was that man he was practically running down the street to catch you up.

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PotOfYoghurt · 20/07/2016 10:11

He's just flirting. If you don't like it, tell him.

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confuugled1 · 20/07/2016 10:28

If he tries to get in the lift with you again could you say something similar to what you said previously, but before he has a chance to say about having a a treat and riding with you, say that you'll wait for him to go first if he needs to go up as you want to ride up alone, you just need some space and peace.

Was going to say to say that you'd had a bad day but think that might then encourage him to do something nice for you (appear with wine or flowers etc) so I guess give him as little as possible.

Or if he does say something first, reply 'Now's not a good time. Please just let me be'.

If you think that he is flirting with you and is hoping that something a relationship will come of it can you say things that will help to emphasise the difference in your ages so that he can see that you don't see him in that way... 'You remind me of my (or a friend's) great uncle...'

Is he a friend of your gran's or does he even know her?

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Joysmum · 20/07/2016 10:39

I'd be on my mobile whenever I was entering or leaving the building to break the trend.

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user1468602338 · 20/07/2016 10:51

No he hasn't got a clue who my gran is.
Deffo going to try the on my mobile trick today.

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Joysmum · 20/07/2016 11:12

Yep it's a good non confrontational way to show that you seeing him isn't important to you and is the first stage in hint dropping.

If it doesn't work after a few goes (you can take the stairs rather than share the lift because of signal issues which is useful) then you can move on to the more heavy handed suggestions. I'd certainly not resort to those first.